Hi everyone
So my dads recently turned 6 and he’s always been a ‘moody’ character and can often be very rude and resistant to any form of authortive figure . Obviously it goes without saying I adore him but I’m starting to feel at a loss with what to do about his rude back chat / disrespect . For example , I could say ‘please bring your rubbish to the bin’ and he will
Shout ‘nope I’m tired ‘ in a loud shout or raised voice . He will repeat the ‘no ‘ etc no matter what way I ask. He will often reply with ‘nope not doing it ‘ and walk away with a sassy walk and refuse to comply . How do I deal with this ? I do time out / consequences etc . I try ignoring small things like tutting or rolling eyes but I feel I cannot ignore his refusal and rudeness to simple requests like picking up
His own litter . I know half of it is he likes to feel in control and he says things for attention/ shock factor so ideally ignoring would work but I feel like that’s giving in/ giving him the power to be rude and continue to refuse to follow simple instructions . His sister who is 3 also looks at him when he’s doing this and I worry she will copy . Any ideas welcome .
Feel really mind boggled with how to tackle this . He can be lovely at times and sometimes will comply but the non compliant stages and rude back chat is becoming more and more . I give praise for good choices / he has one to one time with me / rewaed charts / I always follow through with a consequence such as no iPad or leaving a park etc but I can’t see what else I could do to tackle this .
Thanks in advance