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Being told my son is too aggressive!

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Rachel19850 · 16/10/2018 14:15

Hi all, I'm hoping someone can offer me some advice as I'm driving by stuff crazy over this.
I have 3 year old son and my next door neighbour has a 1 year old son. For Ivey a year now we've been great mates, catching up pretty much every week.
All was well until her and her husband knocked on my door the other night to 'discuss my sons behaviour'. They said that they thought that my son was too aggressive to be playing with their little boy and gave me some examples of times where my son has shouted at their son or snatched a toy off him. I was stunned as this has never been brought up until now and that was the extent of it. He's never done anything like hit or kick or bite. Just shouted at him and to be fair it's usually if their son has done something like pull his hair... Fair enough in my opinion! They then said that they were telling me this so that I can 'nip it in the bud'. I find this extremely insulting as it insinuates that he's doing something and I'm not aware of it. He's never left alone with their son and I will always call it a day if he's getting too wound up. I feel really angry at myself fpr not stepping up and saying that most of his behaviour is pretty typical for a three year old and they need to toughen up! I was so taken aback I just sort of stood there and took it. What would you guys do? Do I go and confront them and put my side across? It's driving be mad!!!! TIA X X X X

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thethoughtfox · 16/10/2018 16:13

They can't play together. Your son is an older, stronger child and naturally is able to use that to get his own way, cause he's a very young child. It's not aggression; it's normal childhood behaviour.

fabulousathome · 17/10/2018 03:57

Too big an age gap to play together unfortunately.

hilbobaggins · 17/10/2018 09:34

Perfectly normal behaviour from your 3 year old. They haven’t got to that stage yet, but they will. Just tell them that you’re sorry they feel like that, the age gap clearly isn’t working and you’re going to cool it on the play dates from now on as your son needs to play with kids his own age. Then sit back and enjoy the schaudenfraude as their son goes through exactly the same thing!

PaulMorel · 17/10/2018 09:56

The age is the problem. I think he is a bit older for his playmates.

Rachel19850 · 17/10/2018 10:41

Thank you all so much. To be honest, I never saw her son as a playmate for mine, it was more that we got together to have a natter most weeks and it was a coincidence that we both have kids lol I'm definitely going to sit back and enjoy watching their child start to exhibit all of this normal behaviour 🤣🤣🤣

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NoKnit · 23/10/2018 19:59

Just try not to laugh when her son is 3 and yours is 5 and able to sit still for long periods of time

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