My DS was 4 at the beginning of August and has just started Reception. He's academically on a par with his peers; knows his letters, numbers, can hold his pencil etc, but behaviourly seems to be really far behind them. He struggled hugely with change and the first couple of weeks at school were really bad. He wouldn't go into the classroom, struggled with going into other rooms etc. It was so bad the Teacher requested a behaviour assessment for him who made some suggestions (she is unwilling to share these with me and is very vague about the whole situation?!).
He's also really poor at actually playing with other children. He can play alongside them, but not actually with them. Add to the fact that he keeps putting his face in other kids when he wants to play and kind of pushing them/tickling them to interact with them. He's also overly boisterous,doesn't follow instructions and very prone to tantrums if he doesn't get his own way.
He's really struggling and I just want to help him. Should I be thinking to address these behaviours individually or is it something wider (ASD or the like) and so I need professional help? I've tried sticker charts, treats, removing toys, shouting, calm words and none seem to have an effect. Please help.