15 month old DD not AT ALL shy

[Spanglemum]

hi, this is my first post here. I don't know why this is worrying me but my little girl is not at all shy. If people come to our house who she doesn't see very often she'll happily go up to them. At toddler group today there was a photographer and whilst other kids cried she sat there and smiled and posed.

I suppose it feels sometimes like she doesn't need me (but I know that's not true). I am not trying to raise a precocious kid,

I'm not shy and both me and Dh have big families but i was shy when i was little.
Anyone elses kids like this?

Hello Spanglemum,

I have a DS just like this. He's 3 now, and has never had separation anxiety, or needed me to be nearby at toddler groups etc. He'll chat to almost anyone who'll listen (so much so that I've started to talk to him about not talking to people he doesn't know ...).

I now have a DS2 who is really clingy by comparison (9 months) - he won't even go to people he knows and sees on a v. regular basis, only me and DH, without crying and reaching out for me to take him back (at which point he stops crying and grins again...). TBH, I find that really hard.

I have always been really glad that DS1 is so independent. It isn't precociousness, just confidence. I think you should try and think of it as having a confident and happy child. Bet when she hurts herself, you're the first person she runs to... She DOES need you.

PS - DH and I are not shy either, so I would be surprised if I had a quiet or shy child...

ooh lucky thing

I have one of each too
ds has never been shy and never even looked up when i left him somewhere ...i was most put out (miss me dammit!)...but dd is an absolute cling-on and cried every time i left her at playgroup for the whole of the first year.
Ds is on the autistic spectrum and his independence has much to do with that ...and so tbh i saw it as a negative thing...as it was a syptom of something much bigger iykwim.
However...since having dd and realising what a nightmare it can be having a child in floods of tears even at the thought of separation from me...i thank my lucky stars that i didn't have to deal with this twice over.
She starts school in september...wish me luck

My dd is exactly the same, and we even had a similar experience to the photographer as you at the same age, I felt very proud!
Neither DH or myself are particulary outgoing either.

I think they are happy and confident because they are secure with you, and know you are there when you need them. She is now 2 and over the last couple of months has shown much more interest in playing with me.
I get so many people commenting on how good she is at playing on her own etc.

I think we're really lucky, honestly you've no need to worry it won't be long before you are summoned to EVERY teddie's tea party etc!!

Don't, in our house, I have to play endless games of "Fireman L*" and put up a "fire engine"/tent in the garden.

Thanks HenriettaHippo, Troutpout and chocloate pig! I' glad to know she's not the only one. I can see us having to do 'don't talk to strangers' chats at some point. She loves to smile at people on the bus, though sometime she does turn hewr head away in a slightly coy way. Generally she's dead outgoing and I shall try not to let it worry me

SM

My dds are just like this. Will talk to anyone and everyone. I am the complete oposite and can be quite shy. I did find it awkward at times. I dont want them to come across as rude or cheeky, which they are sometimes. They have taught me a lot though and I find myself talking to strangers a lot more these days. I am very proud of them.

My dd (2) has always been like this and I love it! No clingy toddler to deal with, just a happy, outgoing girl who is happy to chat to anyone. My 10 mth old looks like he's following in her shoes

hi everyone,

i'm so glad we'e not alone and LOL abut the toddler trying to hug the phtographer!

now i just need to sort out the toy chucking!
spanglemum

lol at 'toychucking' spangle! my 15 month dd throws everything!! i started a thread a couple of weeks ago on just that! (word of advice, when you go shopping be careful bout your dd throwing things from the trolley....i had a very embarrassing incident with a jar of hellmans!!)

that's a good point. thing is she sees us throwing balls and sticks for the dog. I can see my DD chucking stuff in the supermarket if she gets the chance, will look for your thread!!