ds is driving me crazy ...I need some help before i leave home (-:

[mosschops30]

Hes just so bloody willfull. hes 2.5 and is driving me crazy.
Tonight he got down from the table and I took his dinner away and he said 'eat mummy' so I say 'ok sit and eat 'no mummy in bin' want me to put it in the bin 'no mummy'.

And so it goes on all day, shoes off, no want shoes on, wanna go out, no wanna come in, cue endless screaming and throwing self on floor, hitting me.

I'm bloody exhausted

I'm bloody w

Do not give him any options.

Say "We are doing this." Ignore tantrums and try to be calm

Advice from my mum when ds was in midst of terrible 2s.Said I was giving him too many choices.

Worked eventually.

Waits to be shot down in flames from more patient mumsnetters.

Its bloody hard work,I agree.

Mine is nearly 3 and is the same. I'm exhausted every evening from wrestling him to get his shoes on/get into the car seat/stay at the table during meals/stop running off in car parks/stop climbing out of the pushchair while it's moving. the list is endless. When do they grow out of it?

I think it must be a boy thing, I dont remember dd being this trying!

Same agin this morning, finished his milk then argued about what side of the bed to put it on. Then 'trousers on mummy' - 'no trousers on mummy'. Its making me very frustrated, its so hard to stay calm at 6.30am

Lol..both of mine went through this phase.
it will pass ...it will get easier.
hope it's soon

Walk away - that's what I do. Tell him what you need to do (eg put shoes on/ get out of bath, etc), if he runs or objects, then just say well hey just call me when you're ready (ie giving him the power back in a way that means you still get what you want). Might sound like a risky strategy,but it works with our DS - a couple of minutes is the max he's managed to hold out. If you don't get cross or enter the debate they give up.

Other tactic is the ol' "I'd bet you can't get your shoes on/ eat your breakfast/ whatever before I do xyz.

Poor you though - no wonder you're knackered.

dd2 used to do the dinner thing

so I pretended the table was a bus and she was the driver, I was a passenger etc, played along and shovelled her food in when she was distracted

re shoes, say lets put these on and see who can get to the front door first [fake enthusiasm!!!!!!!]

basically fake enthusiasm, NEVER ask a question where you will get no for an answer - eg "do you want your dinner?" "NO!"

"Lets go and get your dinner, can we race!!!!????"