Not enough teachers?

[Mumof1littlemonster]

Happened a few times where I’ve dropped my Lo to nursery and I’ve seen him be pushed or shoved. Bought it to the attention of the teacher too. Always about 2 teachers go approx 20-23 kids (3yr-4yr olds)
Today I dropped Lo and he literally said Bye to me and ran to play with the other kids in the playground, and straight away I saw 2-3kids circle around him & 1 boy pushed him really hard to the ground at this point I was fuming, for no reason he pushed my Lo. I watched and my Lo stood up and others were jumping to he joined in and then the boy shoved him again and pulled a piece of fabric from under his feet. Just then I started to walk towards to playground and little one stood up and both of them were fighting over the piece of fabric, just then the boy pulled the fabric and pushed him really hard to the ground!

A teaching assistant was in the playground casually leaning on the climbing frame (looked like she could have done with some sleep as she looked really tired) as she saw me talking to my Lo she came over and made conversation, I told her what happened and her reply ‘oh sorry I was over there’ so my Lo then wanted dress up outfits from the box and the box that pushed him a few times said he couldn’t go into the box because it’s HIS! I told him nicely No you all have to share, so pls stand back so I can open the box and his reply ‘No I said’ what there parents are teaching them god knows!

I would like this boys parents spoken to as I don’t think it’s acceptable!

Do I approach the main teacher in the class today when I pick up my Lo? Or directly contact the head teacher?

As you can imagine I’m so upset by this, also 33weeks pregnant and very very emotional

Tia x

Anyone??

HI, that does sound tricky. You can't insist the parents are spoken to and even if they are it's not likely it will help. Three year old behaviour needs to be dealt with immediately - the parents talking to the child hours before won't suddenly change his behaviour during nursery. It may be the case his parents don't care, or he's going through a very challenging phase and they've already tried everything - who knows.

I do think though that you should speak to nursery and let them know what's happening and insist they keep an eye on this boy.

I agree with the above. How old is your LO and can he explain his day to you when you pick him up? Ie, update you on what's happened?

Defo speak to nursery staff and express concerns about his happiness at nursery as well as his physical wellbeing. If they know you're aware of the issue then they will make an effort to keep an eye. It's a thin line between being a concerned parent and a pain in the bum though! I'm a teacher so speak from experience 😬

Thank you for your replies...

So I spoke to the teacher after school & well she kind of brushed off speaking to the boys parents. When I told her he was pushed to the ground twice her exactly reply was ‘it’s just one of those things’ made me quiet upset actually and makes me not want him to be there if he’s not going to be looked after properly... I’m probably also being abit OTT but I don’t know.. also when I went to pick Lo up today, there was another incident. Assistant needed me to sign for it & she said my LO hurt his head with the broom in the playground... my Lo told me a completely different story, he told me another little boy hit it in his head. Also the boy that pushed him from the morning incident apparently threw sand at him which he said hurt in his eyes... he told the teachers and he said the teacher told the boy off.
I’m now just abit upset sending him into nursery, and I really didn’t want to feel like this nor do I need this now with being so close to Delivery soon of baby no2

albanyd Lo is 3 & he fully tells me what his day has been like x

On the one hand it is "just one of those things" in that it's typical 3 year old behaviour. What isn't typical is that the nursery just allow it to happen without intervening. Mine both went to a school nursery and there would certainly be children who pushed and snatched and said "you can't come in the toy kitchen" but the nursery staff would gently intervene to make sure the child doing this knew it was inappropriate behaviour and the child on the receiving end felt safe and happy at nursery. It doesn't sound like the teachers are present enough in your LO's nursery.

Totally agree with Full. The behaviour can be normal, what’s not ok is the way the Nursery are handling it. I’d ask to speak to the Nursery Manage if it’s a Orivate Nursery or the Head if it’s a Nursery class in a school. Depending on how that meeting goes, I’d consider moving him or keeping him home.

A 3/4yr old child doesn’t no any better so not blaming the child at all. My Lo has been through that phase at the beginning of this year and the teacher had a word with me on several occasions, and we talked to him & made him understand what he was doing is wrong. So why when I asked her I would like his parents spoken to so the child can also understand, why she wasn’t really up to doing that & passing the comment ‘it’s just one of those things’

They are due to go to the park for the first time in a group of 12 kids with 3 teachers & since yesterday I am totally against the idea of him going now but DH says I’m worrying too much.

He goes to a school nursery so I will be writing an email to the HT and I’ll wait to hear back from her.