Advice about my 2 year old and 6 year old behaviour ! X

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Hi everyone .
I’m in need of some advice . I have a 6yo son and a 3 year old daughter . I’m having some trouble with both of their behaviour lately . My 6 year old is quite moody , very stubborn over everything and can act very rude a lot of the time to me , his sister and everyone around him. I love the bones of him but I just want to help
Him realise he cannot act out all the time . He is either acting ‘silly’ or rude at the moment . He runs off and refuses to listen when I say for example ; please don’t jump on that wall it’s too high ... he will 100 percent ignore me and the. Smile or laugh when I tell him off .
His sister sees this and then presumes this is okay and I’m worried that she is going to end up just copying all of his behaviour . He winds her up a lot too for the sake of it and if she’s being kind he will purposefully try to hurt her feelings and tell her she’s wrong or naughty etc even when she’s not being .
I really could do with some help advice/ tried and tested ways of starting to get my son to behave in a more caring / polite / respectful way.
I’m quite a positive parenter and I always praise him when he’s making good behaviour choices but he just doesn’t respond when I’m asking him to behave . He’s either ignoring me , laughing and running away or flat out refusing .

My 2 year old is quite well behaved but is very shy and clingy . I don’t want her to copy this behaviour otherwise I will end up with two children acting out in this way almost constantly .

Any tips appreciated :)

I haven’t got much to offer OP but have a look at this book.

My eldest was a nightmare at that age. Like the Tasmanian Devil in the old cartoons. We ended up going to the doctors and behavioural specialists at the Sick Kids Hospital and they prescribed him Ritalin. However after literally one dose he was lethargic and very subdued. My DH, who had been against what the doctors had said anyway, freaked out and threw the rest of the prescription in the bin immediately. He said he just wasn’t willing to drug our kids and certainly not to the extent that the Ritalin had caused. He even went as far as phoning the hospital to tell the specialist her services were no longer required. He wasn’t quite so elegant or polite as that but you get the jist. The problem was he worked at sea at that time and I was going to be left aline again with this living tornado. At this point an elderly relative showed be an article in a magazine about artificial colours/flavours. I was skepticsl but willing to try anything. Well blow me away it was like night and day. Acter a week of zero artificial colours and flavours he was completely normal. Still happy and fun but not excessively hyper. Just like a normal kid. His school was happy. I stopped getting spoken too about his behaviour at home time. It was great. It got to the stage where we could instantly tell if he’d sneaked something at a birthday party etc as the Tasmanian Devil would try and sneak out again. Colours/Flavours never affected my youngest in the same way but we cut them out of our shopping anyway. Anyway. Long winded but you might want to try cutting them iut of his diet? Btw. This was fifteen years ago. My eldest is now twenty. He recently joined the Army and his Ritalin prescription came up in his medical during his selection process. We had to write a letter telling them about it and explaining he literally only had one dose fifteen years previously. So worth noting though that childhood behaviour and prescriptions stay in their records. He has grown out of the behaviour issues if he has artificials now.