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what to do when the time will come...........

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sasa15 · 08/06/2007 22:47

going to see mother in law for 9 days..
want to leave with her ds and have weekend off with dh, but should I tell him in advance and prepare.......
he is going to like the idea to sleep
with nanny for 2 nights...without me or daddy
reading book and bedtime routine....

he's in a different house and without mammy and daddy?
Shall we go when is sleeping...or prepare him
and tell him that we will go and come back in 2 days....he will scream and get upset and we will end up taking with us!

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sasa15 · 09/06/2007 07:35

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ChipButty · 09/06/2007 07:38

Tell him well in advance and keep telling him. Do not just disappear. And don't forget to tell him WHEN you will be coming back. Also arrange a convenient time to ring when you are away and speak to him.

BettySpaghetti · 09/06/2007 07:42

How old is he sasa?

We had a weekend away in Feb without the children -DS was 2.8 at the time and had never had a night without us.

I did prepare him beforehand but thats because I know that that approach works with him. A couple of weeks before I told him that the ILs were going to come and look after him and his sister for a night, I made it sound exciting, talked about the sort of things they could do with them and, most inportantly, told him how we would be back the next day.

He was fine when it came to it.

ahundredtimes · 09/06/2007 07:44

Definitely tell him in advance, in bright cheery confident voice, about all the great things he's going to do. AND when you're going to come back. Do a little calender thing, doesn't matter that he can't read, and point out how long you are away for and when you're coming back. Tell him MIL is SO looking forward to having him. Will be fab.
He might cry to begin with, but carry on with breezy and firm cheerful voice and he'll stop. Don't let him see your worry.

Will be fine, honest.

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sasa15 · 09/06/2007 08:18

he's 3 years old!

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adath · 09/06/2007 08:23

Definately tell him don't sneak off.
Make it really exciting and fun and even get him something her really loves or wants to have at nanny's house.
Tell him when you will be back and that you will phone at a time he understands like just before bathtime or something. I think the calander idea is fab and he could take it to nanny's hose and cross of the days and sctivities until you get back.
Sneaking off will just frighten him and wil dent the trust he has in you but being honest he may cry still but at least he will not be left confused as to why you are not there.

Jas · 09/06/2007 08:25

Agree re telling him and sounding confident. When I did the samething with my dds, I left while they were very busy playing, and didn't have a big goodbye, but a little"see you tomorrow" and I was off. DD1 got very upset speaking to me on the phone the first time, so we waited until she asked to call me the next time (and she didn't ask, during a two night stay)

Jas · 09/06/2007 08:25

ahundredtimes · 09/06/2007 12:36

Well 3yo is fine, I thought you were going to say he was 18mnths or something. Absolutely you have to tell him and talk it through. Isn't fair on him or your ILS if you don't.

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