How would you handle this ?

[scatterbrain]

Well - some of you may remember my saga about falling out with another school mum - and now we just say Hello and do not socialise.

Well - my dd and her dd (both 6) still are very good friends - but my dd has been telling me tonight that the friend has said a few things that I am not too pleased about. For example "You can't come and play at my house anymore because we all hate your mum!", "You can't come to my birthday party as my mum won't have your mum in our house again !". etc

Also - apparently this girl has been using the "f word" a lot - and has been calling another friend "A for f*s sake girl". My dd has said this word a few times lately and is on her last warning for having her mouth washed out - so she knows it is wrong !

Now - obviously I have no intention of doing anything about either thing - but I am at a bit of a loss what to say to dd about the stuff about me ! So far I haven't said anything about the other mum - but it's getting difficult not to !

What would you do ?

Just play it down.
Tell her that you had a disagreement with the other mother, but that it is all sorted out now, and that it is over as far as you are concerned.
Tell her that you think it is a shame that the other family are saying mean things about you, because you don't feel like saying unkind things about them.
Hopefully your DD will filter this back to the other girl, who will tell her mother, who will feel like a fool for getting her children involved in her arguments.

oooh good idea !!! Thank you !!

I was obsessing about not saying anything mean that would get filtered back - but you are right - I can get the moral high ground here !! Thank You !

Brothel that's top advice - be the grown up, dont rise to it, show you're a balanced and mature woman who won't be pulled into petty name callign filtered through small children.