Help! 9 year old wetting the bed.

[Strugglingmum23]

My 9 year old daughter is still wetting the bed. This is happening usually about 3 to 4 times a week.
Have tried no fluids at night and tired waking her up for the toilet before going to bed myself but it just doesn't work.
Last year I took her to see the doctor but she was no help and said she will just grow out of it.
Its so hard to deal with and it bothers her a lot and knocks her confidence, also stops her from having sleep overs. But she has an overnight trip with one of her groups in a few months so I really need a solution asap.
Any help and advice would be great.
And speaking to someone else that is dealing with similar would be great as I'm cracking up.
Thanks.

Have a look at this
www.eric.org.uk/blog/why-sleepovers-neednt-be-a-nightmare

children that have been abused physically or sexually often wet the bed up to adulthood. just incase ask her if someone has ever tied to touch her lady parts and asure her her safety. you never know and in future after the talk mabey she might come straight to you if aomeone dares to touch her inappropriately. i would reaserch how to approach it and for other signs like itching her bum ect. i sincerely hope thats not the case but having worked with children that have been sexually abused they have wet the bed to teenage years. not trying to sound too doom and gloom but just incase, it might just be a weak bladder or nightmares.

Agree with PP look at Eric website, it happens to lots of children but is not talked about. Somehow not being able to control something whilst you sleep is seen as shameful. Ever wondered why the nappies aisle in the supermarket is full of pull up pyjama pants? Because a lot of children need them.

Ds1 (now 15) was never dry at night until he was 10/11 years old. We also went down the GP route after trying everything on the Eric website including recording his liquid intake and output - he peed into an old measuring jug. Giving him plenty of fluids to increase the size of his bladder rather than limiting drinks. He also tried an alarm which worked but left him feeling frazzled

He had an residential trip for school on the horizon and so we went to the GP. He was prescribed Desmopressin which is the hormone vasopressin.

Basically, when we sleep we produce vasopressin which limits the amount of urine we produce at night therefore the bladder does not get full and so we don't need to empty our bladder. This treatment worked for our son so we knew he just wasn't producing the hormone. We just used the medication for any overnight trips like hotels or holidays but didn't want to drug him constantly.

Eric is a fantastic website, full of really good information and also shows you that not having control of your bladder whilst you sleep is not something to be ashamed of. There are adults who also are not dry at night. But again, not something we talk about. It may reassure your daughter that she is most definitely not alone.