Help please- My son hates learning

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My son hates anything to do with learning. He is 6 and is fine going to school but just messes around when he is there and it’s a struggle to get him to do anything. If he is doing something he wants to do he can do it forever but if it remotely resembles a learning activity he will say he can’t do it, that he is bored and everything is just a battle.
He can recognise most of his letters but not all of them but if you try and teach him he either says he knows it and doesn’t need help or that he can’t do it.
Homework, reading, spelling it’s all just a drama of him either sulking or saying he doesn’t know. Even if it’s something he does know like how to spell his name.

I have left my full time job to try and be around more so he can have more one on one but at the minute it just doesn’t seem to be helping as he just won’t really engage with anything.

Has anyone else had similar? How did you approach this to make it better?

I just want to help him but the refusal to engage is getting frustrating for me and I know I need to change tac but I’ve tried using games and rewards and they don’t seem to be working.

I would talk to his teacher as soon as possible to share successful strategies.

Get his eyesight and hearing checked, in case there is a problem with either that makes learning more difficult (don't assume either are fine, as children live with what they have and pick up on other clues so problems aren't spotted and because they don't realise their vision or hearing should be better they don't complain).

Make an appointment to speak to his teacher.

Make sure you visibly back up school with dealing with his behaviour and ensure he knows (show him, don't just tell him) that you are looking for hard work and resilience from him.

Get him involved in a non-academic sport or hobby, if he isn't already, to balance the academic activities and to give him something he is interested in and that he can see he will make progress in as a result of his efforts.

Exactly what Apple says. The only thing I’d try to add is reading to him every night and try to look for the odd activity that is fun but helps them to learn. Orchard Games are usually good for this kind of thing but there will be lots online. Try to make it fun too. Even going for walks can help with numbers and letters. You can look at the letters on car number plates and try to make up silly words or talk about the house numbers or collect and count things.

Hello, my son really enjoyed learning letters and numbers on iPad apps. Look at ‘originator’ branded games, they’re colourful and funny and dont feel like learning. “Endless 123” was brill for numbers. No idea advice re behaviour, I’m afraid, I’m here looking for the same help! Hopefully your son will get in to school a bit more once he has the basics sorted x