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Blaming Daddy for everything?

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Lovecat · 04/06/2007 21:02

DD has developed a weird habit in the last week or so and I was hoping you could all pile in and tell me it's normal...?

I tend to keep up a (mainly one-sided) stream of chatter when I'm with her - started when she was tiny and now she's 2.3 - kind of a narration of what we're doing, where we're going etc. This includes me asking rhetorical questions - ie 'where did I put my keys?' 'how did you get covered in paint like that?' , 'who drank all that juice?' etc etc.

Only just recently she's started answering me by saying 'Daddy hid them' or 'Daddy did it'... when I know for a fact he's been nowhere near whatever it is he's getting the blame for!

Came to a head last week when we went swimming and I realised I'd mislaid my pound for the locker - 'oh' I said 'where's that coin gone?' she answered 'Daddy took it! Daddy took it!' really loudly - and then she said 'Daddy hit me, Daddy banged my head!' - she had actually banged her own head that morning when she'd run into the fridge door that before the recent growth spurt she'd just fitted under!

Turned around to see other mother regarding me with suspicious eyes... oh dear!

Not sure what poor old Daddy has done to be blamed for everything, but is this common? Does it last? How long before social services come and arrest Daddy??

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Lovecat · 04/06/2007 21:10

Anyone??

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Stigaloid · 04/06/2007 21:11

I don't have any advice to offer but appreciate this must be driving you crazy in trying to understand it all. Didn't want your post to go unanswered but sorry i can't be of any help.

[hug]

elasticbandstand · 04/06/2007 21:12

no, sorry, if you had been talking about a teenager i was going to say, me too..have you been blaming daddy, or did you once.. or someone else.. strange otherthan that .. sorry

Tamdin · 04/06/2007 21:15

ds too young for this yet lovecat but a good friend's dd went through this phase at around the same age. One of her 'tales' was that daddy had cut her leg with scissors. (the scratch on her leg had in fact been done by falling off the bed which her mum had been witness to). it passed in a few months and she is a total daddy's girl (now aged 5). Is it the start of 'lying' do you think? i don't mean in a deceitful adult way but in the manner that chidren start to learn to make things up and invent stuff just an idea. x

elasticbandstand · 04/06/2007 21:16

i had a row with dh once and called him an old man, out walking once my ds, about 2, saw an old man and called him it.. .. oh the shame

carocaro · 04/06/2007 21:25

DS aged 5 blames Pooh Bear for everything! Poor old Pooh! xx

Lovecat · 04/06/2007 21:29

Thanks guys, makes me feel a bit better...

lol @ elasticbandstand - now she's talking, I have taken to saying 'silly man/lady!' in the car rather than the 'you f-ing w@nker' I used to scream at those people who cut me up. She now says 'silly man!' to the OH (together with finger-wagging!) and thinks it's hilarious....

But I've never blamed him for anything in front of her, so I've no idea where this is coming from! Hopefully it won't last too long...

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seamonster · 04/06/2007 21:30

It might be all your fault next week...

kateyp · 04/06/2007 21:40

We have just the same here with DS (age 2.5) - yesterday Daddy trod on his foot (by accident) - today he showed me where his socks have made a mark round his ankle and he said "daddy stood on my leg, he hurt my leg".

He also fell over in the kitchen and came to tell me that "Daddy pushed me!" when Daddy had done nothing of the sort.

He had a brief period a couple of weeks ago where he blamed his friend for things (spilling juice etc). The giveaway that he was lying was that the friend in question had moved away 2 weeks before!

I am told that lying about things is meant to be a sign of intelligence so that is what I am pinning my hopes on. Daddy on the other hand is awaiting the phone call from social services...

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