VERY VERY talkative 3 year old, will she ever stop, if not........

[Eddas]

how on earth do I cope with the constant wittering.

Seriously, I never get any peace, ever. She talks from the minute she wakes until she goes to bed. That's around 12 hours of constant talking.

This is seriously beginning to get to me. I know she is just an inquisitive child. She loves learning and knows a fair bit for her age, but I need to do something to keep my sanity.

I have a nearly 8 week old baby too and with the mixture of his crying(he is very good but obviously babies cry) and her wittering it's NEVER quiet.

Any suggestions gratefully received

And any thoughts on if/when she may tone down the jabbering welcome to

so i have to endure this everyday til she's 13 OH NO!!!

Thankyou all for your assurance that I am NOT alone.

I have to keep telling myself it's good that she talks. She is a beautiful wonderful little girl who oooz's intelligence. She talks to anyone and everyone she meets. I often get 'she's not shy is she' erm no would not describe her as shy,LOL.

I also get, she can't be 3 and no school today My reply of she's to young for school is often met by odd looks as if i'm fibbing.

I know i must be thankful that she's is so bright etc but oh for some peace

Right off to read that thread

Eddas my dd is the same (3.6) but add talking in her sleep

lucyellensmum as other have said about "your dd is too young surely to be diagnosed with these difficulties" my dd bearly spoke to words a single word at 2 2 1/2, could climb anywhere she wanted but didn't talk.

sorry should be two not to

the length of NHS waiting lists for SALT, I think LucyEllensMum is very sensible in taking her concerns about her DD's speech very seriously. Yes a lot of kids are late talkers, and nothing is amiss, but it's still better to be safe than sorry.

Its not the talking thats a pain its the 'why' question.

Typical conversation in our house;
DD - its raining
me- yes I know
dd- why
me- because thats the type of weather it is
dd- rain is wet isnt it
me- yes
DD-why
me- because its water
dd- why is rain water

and on and on it goes.

touch wood, youngest is 7, not so many whys , but i have to answer immediately... geez.. it is so stressful

mummy2seven, THANKYOU for your support. My little girl is currently having speech therapy. She has been described as having expressive language delay, she has no problem understanding. I hope and pray every day that my little girl is going to start chatting away as so many people tell me has happened to their children and that i am indeed worrying over nothing. I am not about to stick my head in the sand and wait for this to happen, this little girl is my reason for living and if i can help her in any way then i will. If people think im being an over protective, pushy, neurotic mother, let them (this directed at DP rather than anyone here). We were very lucky to get dd into speech therapy quite quickly, she had assesment with peadiatrician at 18m (she had words at a year and then stopped). She said that she didnt need to see her again, unless there was no improvement but two, she is two in july

you're welcome lucyellensmum. It's good that your DD doesn't seem to have problems understanding, given that I would be very hopeful that she will catch up in the relatively near future. If you are anywhere near a surestart/children's centre, they sometimes run a "You Make the Difference"/Hanen course (9 weeks),which is very good for giving you ideas about helping your child's language.

thanks again, will look that up when im sober (hic) sorry, dont mean to hijack the thread just re the chatter, im sure dd will get there soon.

mummy2seven, we do sign language, that helps a great deal, dd is getting really good [proud emoticon] oh, i just love that little girl so much, sorry.

you're welcome, if you want to discuss further, you're welcome to CAT me

i dont have a CAT mummy what is that anyway, have seen it on other threads.

Eddas - my dd of 3 is exactly the same, talks to anyone and everything including the toilet, television (Justin on CBeebies in particular, and signs at him as well) and has now taken to shouting at people in supermarkets if they don't respond - usually 'mummy, why doesn't that man talk to me?'.

It's exhausting - she's just started sleeping less now too so we've got 14 hours non-stop. This is combined with an almost unstoppable urge to bounce on her bed, sofa or anything else she can find, so bouncing whilst talking seems to be the norm! She loves CBeebies website but talks to that too so not much help. Sorry I can't offer much of a solution but you're not alone!

lucyellensmum - my niece is 3 and has delayed speech and loose ligaments. She has had extensive physio and speech therapy and it's been a tough time for my brother and sil but she's really made amazing progress in the last year and now comes across as a calm and thoughtful little girl. She understands everything and has a fantastic sense of humour and we know she'll get there with her speech. Good luck with your dd.

If she's signing (& pointing??- especially to things of interest) that's a pretty good sign that all is well on the language front. Agree always worth following up- SALT in this country is diabolical.

Don't worry lucyellensmum- I have a 7 year old who can't talk at all (not a word) a 5 year old who doesn't shut up, and a 2 year old who has found his toungue (not until that recently though and he's 2 and a half) and is getting to the stage where he doesn't shut up. If I ever moan about ds2 and ds3 my mother immediately snaps "well you'd be moaning if they weren't talking" and glares at me, so I know what you meant!

Ds (4)will now whitter on, and if I make a comment will say "no, mummy I was talking to myself", so I know i don't have to listen.

Also some reverse psychology - ask her lots of questions or try to get her to join you in a song and she'll probably go and play quietly somewhere!

I get ds to use his "low" voice when he gets over excited as the problem is often not the talking but the supersonic nature of the preschoolers voice.

I know other people find him exhausting - but I have got very good at tuning in and tuning out as appropriate. I will also give him something complicated to do (like ride a bike) and he can't cope with doing two things at once and so will pipe down a little.

Lucyellen, my mum says i didn't say anything for quite a while but when i did it was a sentance not a word Haven't stopped since, apparently. I hope to see a thread in a few months from you about wanting to keep your dd quiet

I too have developed the 'ahem, mmm, yep, really, ok, yeah' response as a general 'yes i know you're talking, AGAIN, but I cannot listen, AGAIN, to the same bloomin thing'

I have tried the reverse psychology thing, she just answers my questions, always correctly, and carried on wittering

I don't think lack of sleep helps my tolerance levels at all. But if i go to bed any earlier I really don't get any peace since it's only quiet when she's in bed!! But lizziemum, you don't beat me as my dd also talks in her sleep But i can't hear that as she's upstairs!!! I have had conversations with her when I think she's awake and she's not. Eyes open, talking(albeit sleepily) and then I realise shes asleep!!!

I really think the only 'answer' if it is an answer is to keep her mind fuelled with lots of learning. Her birthday is on sunday so fingers crossed she get's some learning presents.

Thank you so much for this thread Eddas.

I have felt really guilty for getting stressed with my dd's (4)constant wittering too. It starts as soon as she wakes and dosent stop till she falls asleep! She also sings in a high pitched voice and my family are definetly not reknowned for musical talent. Sometimes it feels like i am living inside Hilda Ogden's head!!!

Her wittering also involves made up words and telling me about her friend "Dilly-loo-laa"! Sometimes it is so hard to be enthusiastic enough to listen or not just shout "Shush"

It dosent help that ds(2) is now imitating her noises all the time so i am starting to get it in stereo....

Thanks for making me realise normal mums feel this way too.

Irishmammy, you're welcome

It really is nice to know we are not alone isn't it

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