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VERY VERY talkative 3 year old, will she ever stop, if not........

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Eddas · 04/06/2007 15:14

how on earth do I cope with the constant wittering.

Seriously, I never get any peace, ever. She talks from the minute she wakes until she goes to bed. That's around 12 hours of constant talking.

This is seriously beginning to get to me. I know she is just an inquisitive child. She loves learning and knows a fair bit for her age, but I need to do something to keep my sanity.

I have a nearly 8 week old baby too and with the mixture of his crying(he is very good but obviously babies cry) and her wittering it's NEVER quiet.

Any suggestions gratefully received

And any thoughts on if/when she may tone down the jabbering welcome to

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fennel · 04/06/2007 15:22

My chatterbox has really toned down now, she's 5. Things which calmed her down were learning to amuse herself with drawing and crafts, and then learning to read - that really helped. But all that's since she was 4, at 3 she was just incessant. I think my main thing I did, when she was 3 and I also had a newborn, was to send her to nursery for extra days sometimes. In fact I sent her on playdates, to visit people, anything to break the incessant flow of chatter.

but now she's far better. she's learnt to think without opening her mouth

lucyellensmum · 04/06/2007 15:24

By Eddas on Mon 04-Jun-07 15:14:47
how on earth do I cope with the constant wittering.

My answer to that would be, be thank the good lord for a happy, outgoing little girl who loves to talk, i would love for my DD (nearly two) to be a chatter box but she has speach and language difficulties and hardly says a word

Not that i don't sympathise, im just praying that one day i can start a similar thread.

lucyellensmum · 04/06/2007 15:26

By Eddas on Mon 04-Jun-07 15:14:47
how on earth do I cope with the constant wittering.

Not that i don't sympathise, im just praying that one day i can start a similar thread.

OhNo40 · 04/06/2007 15:26

Can't offer any advice, only sympathy. Mine is exactly the same and has been so for at least a year. She's just turned 3 and the MN "what they can do at 3" list said she should be able to put sentences of 3 words together. I gave a hollow laugh and thought "if only".
I don't know about you but I have to answer properly too - a grunt doesn't satisfy! Like you, I try to count my blessings that I have a healthy, intelligent, inquisitive little girl but at times its difficult.

KerryMum · 04/06/2007 15:27

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Sparkletastic · 04/06/2007 15:30

I'm right with you Eddas. DD1 is 4 and NEVER STOPS!! DD2 is 1 and I'm loving that she can't speak yet. No disrespect LucyEllen - you have a very different issue - but Eddas I know how tough it is to keep calm. I have learned to zone her out a bit but she is relentless. Getting breaks in essential - mine goes to nursery 3 mornings whilst I work and my folks are great with her. I do try to explain to her calmly sometimes that she must sometimes do things on her own quietly but on the whole she just gives me a running commentary or asks questions or buts in etc etc!! Fennel has given us hope though... I think school will make a huge difference to my DD and I bet to yours too - just another year for you to survive

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Eddas · 04/06/2007 15:31

Ohno, that's what i mean i know i shouldn't get annoyed with the talking, but it's just all the time. Sentances of 3 words, good grief, dd (3 next sunday) has been like this for so long, she knows the most obscure words. Recites films, yes films, adverts allsorts. She can recite most of her books.

lucyellen, i do appreciate that some kids don't speak or can't for whatever reasons and know their parents would love them to speak.

Fennel, so it may tone down sometime then

Right off to teach her to read

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Eddas · 04/06/2007 15:38

kerry, computer, ok will try it, but as sparkle said i will probably just get running commentry!!

She goes to preschool 3 mornings and will be doing 5 in sept. Proper schools isn't for another 1 1/2 years they do 2 intakes where she'll be going and as she's a june bday she'll go after christmas, so Jan 2009. Might well try to get her in for sept 2008 though as i'm sure she'll need to go by then.

Thanks for the replys ladies, nice to know i'm ot suffering the jabbering alone

Maybe her being off preschool all last week has made me more tired of the talking? Cannot wiat for the long summer holidays. Best get planning some days out

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Lucycat · 04/06/2007 15:38

Just wait until your ds can talk too - my dd's (aged 7 and 4) never stop talking - all the way to Wales and back - we got headphones for the incar dvd player to hopefully let dh and I get a word in edgeways but they just shouted to each other instead!

so sorry no help whatsoever - nursery is a wonderful place though

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Eddas · 04/06/2007 15:42

lucycat don't say that was hoping being a boy and having a talkative dd he either won't talk alot or won't be able too!!

No seriously I do love the fact she is so bright and chirpy but it is relentless. I think i need to get her doing stuff. I suppose before ds i at least was out twice a week at work but now every day is spent listening to ds crying on and off and dd chatting non stop.

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lucyellensmum · 04/06/2007 15:44

i do not have an "issue". I was simply stating that as i'm sure the OP appreciates that we often become irritated by our childrens idiosyncracies (sp! again!!), but that really, they are things that we should cherish. I hope that eddas does not think i am trying to make her feel bad, just pointing out a positive!

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Eddas · 04/06/2007 15:46

lucyellen, don't worry didn't think you were spoiling for a fight and I do appreciate that it is good she talks a lot.

Just having a day when it really is too much.

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hippmummy · 04/06/2007 15:46

Fennel - I love your last sentence about learning to think before opening her mouth -I'm looking forward to that day!

My DS1 is very talkative - every thought is expressed verbally, question after question - even ones he knows the answers to! (he is nearly 4).

I am grateful that he is so expressive and chatty, but it doesn't stop me from craving some quiet sometimes. Between him and DS2 there is rarely a moments peace.

...except when the TV is on

lucyellensmum · 04/06/2007 15:59

thanks Edas, i too am having a bad day as my DD clearly was upset when the lady at baby music asked her a question but she couldnt answer, my heart broke right there on the spot for her.

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Eddas · 04/06/2007 16:09

aw poor dd lucyellen

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Sparkletastic · 04/06/2007 16:19

I'm not spoiling for a fight either Lucyellen - it was just that your response didn't really offer any support to Eddas but I didn't want to diminish it. I meant no offence by the word 'issue' - just that your concern with your DD was not the same as Eddas's...

PetitFilou1 · 04/06/2007 16:49

My sympathies also, ds talks ALL the time when he is at home. He is 3.3. What are these learning land CD Roms and where do you get them from? Enlighten me someone please?! Ds is certainly ready to be taught something - we got a traffic book through from Transport for London the other day and he devoured it with me (even told daddy to go away while we were doing it - which is unheard of in our house Sometimes I think he just likes to get attention by talking. He often says things like 'why do those (train) doors open mummy' and I say 'why do you think they open ds' and he will tell me. We go through this several times a day when I'm fed up of repeating myself.....

carocaro · 04/06/2007 21:06

eeeeks ds1 now 5 is still a motor mouth, today, blimey non stop, thank god for school tomorrow, very sweet but brain frazzling, I have ds2 who is 4.5 months. so we have designated quiet times when he's off school and and the weekend that involves and oven timer for 10 mins about 2-3 times a day, it works, perhaps because he's a bit older, it helps me re-gear my head for the next onslaught! I do laugh as there is a teenage boy over the road who just grunts about once a week a his parents and we do have a real laugh about the difference! I swear he can eat drink and speak at the same time!

noonar · 04/06/2007 21:13

lucynelle...isnt nearly 2 quite young to be dx with speech probs? surely lots of children have few words at that age. (apologies for my ignorance).

eddas, i do sympathise. mydd2 , nearly 3 drives me potty. i often feel tense and edgy as a result of her constant wittering! they are cute though, arent they?

JustineMummsnet · 04/06/2007 21:16

Eddas you have my heartfelt sympathy.

dd2 was like this at 3, and is even worse at 4.5

she is learning to read which I am praying, praying, may calm her down

I send her to nursery as often as possible

JustineMummsnet · 04/06/2007 21:17

lucyellen your dd is too young surely to be diagnosed with these difficulties?

Califrau · 04/06/2007 21:19

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elasticbandstand · 04/06/2007 21:20

to the op, i shoudl think she will stop.. when she is a teenager, so about 10 years

MaureenMLove · 04/06/2007 21:26

I believe they stop talking completely on the day they turn into a snotty teenager! Enjoy the conversation while it lasts! Not much help now, I know, but I know what you mean. Sometimes I have to tell my dd to breathe! Mind you, I know where she gets it from, my dh says the same about me! Putting her on cbeebies sounds like a good idea.

MrsWednesday · 04/06/2007 21:33

Eddas, you should read this thread - it has lots of funny stories about witterers

very funny

My DS1 is a bit like this, especially in the car. I've taken to repeating 'ah-ha, hmm, oh yes, really?' every now and again, seems to do the trick.

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