dd nearly 4 just started wetting herself

[pinkdolly]

DD will be 4 in August she has was potty trained when she turned 3 with very few problems. However, she is still in training pants at night.

Just recently she has started to wet herself during the day. It happens at least once a day. And there is always a toilet close by.

Yesterday evening, she wet herself right outside the bathroom door .

Dh and I are a little concerned over this behaviour. We are not sure if it is a sign of stress (though not sure why this would be) or maybe an infection (though there are no other symptoms).

A bit of info about her;

She is the middle child of 3. DD3 is 11 months old, so she was the youngest for 3 years. Howeverm she has shown no signs at all of jealousy since dd3 came along.

She has, however, turned into one of those really whingy whiney children. And can stomp and sulk over anything. When she is not whnging she is a very cheeky and funny child, but was just wondering if these things could be connected.

She is always hungery (not sure if this can be conneceted), but I mean all the time, she could eat and eat all day.

Other than that she is a well balanced little girls. She is not generally unwell, except maybe for recurrent glue ear. And she has had no traumas or losses.

We were just hoping that some of you might have had some experience of this. We would be greatful for any advice you can give.

Thanx

Pink

Our dd started doing this when she was 4 and a half. Dd2 was born when dd1 was 4. Dd1 showed no signs of anxiety or jealousy but started this seemingly out of nowhere. In her case she'd sit in bed early in the morning and wee in it! In the end we put it down to a perceived lack of attention on her part. WE did a star chart for her and made a fuss of her, kept it all very positive and this did the trick. We had a few relapses and each time brought the star chart back and it just faded out and didn't happen again after a while.

pinkdolly - you have just described my dd. 4 in August, ALWAYS hungry, and often just can't be bothered to go to the toilet. She just says 'I've WET my pants'. Never if we're out though, always at home.

(We have the same sort of family I think - ds1 is nearly 6, ds2 is 13 months).

pinkdolly, my dd sometimes does this as well. it seems to happen more when she's busy playing with her friend - I suspect she just doesn't want to break off to go to the toilet! If it's just us at home she's generally ok. am a bit concerned about when she starts school (in sept), although she is ok at nursery. she still wears pullups at night too - not worth trying to take them away yet!

Thanx for your responses. We were not sure if we should be punishing this behaviour (my gut instinct was not too).

Moomin- The star chart sopunds like a good idea. Thanx

Tortoiseshell- Do you have any ideas what is causing your dd's wetting? How have you been handeling it?

Paddington_ Our dd doesn't seem to wet herself anywhere but in the home. Unless of course she is really desperate and there is no loo. We have a loo upstairs and downstairs. So she is never far from the toilet. And also she is not always too busy to go. Which makes me wonder if it could be a water infection and she just doesn't know she needs to go.

Do you think it's worth a check-up at the doc's?

pd - we just ignore it. I'm pretty sure it's an attention seeking thing, as it is only at home that it happens, never at playgroup. And even then it's not MAJOR accidents, just letting her pants get a little wet.

How do you handle the constant 'I'm HUUUUUUNGRY'. Dd eats MASSIVE amounts of fruit because that's all I let her have between meals - she will eat 3-4 apples, 3-4 satsumas, strawberries and grapes in the day, which is great, but I do wonder why she wants to eat ALL the time!

My DS (just turned 4) has started doing this since our house move, when he never really had accidents before. With him I think it is probably a reaction to the changes, but it still threw me a bit.
The star chart sounds like a good idea, but it may be worth taking her to the doctors just to check there is no infection.

pd i think you are right not to punish - we don't, just give another reminder for her not to leave it too late next time!

could she have worms? my neice started wetting after being dry for ages and the gp treated her for worms.she stopped wetting.she could have picked it up from nursery?

could be a UTI

Hiya, The problem hasn't gone away as yet. But I havent taken her to the doc's yet.

DD doesn't go to nursery, could she have caught worms from the time spent in sunday school (45 mins)?

She doesn't appear to be unwell in any other way.

she won't necesarily be unwell with a UTI - I'd take her as soon as you can, tbh, as undetected UTIs can travel into the kidneys and cause damage and pain.