Dd2 (5) has been really hard work , any suggestions?

[MrsWho]

She has been talking to anyone and everyone (as in people we don't know)

She keeps trying to hug everyone (again strangers too)

Running away (in the middle of Cardiff)

Hiding under the table/in cupboards etc when told off (even if its just "use your fork" etc)

any suggestions welcome!

TIA

Oh and she has been even worse than normal to get to sleep

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Do you think she has any worries?
How is she getting on at school?

She is fine at school have brought it up before with them, I have just had a few bad days with her and am exhausted today

She has been talking to anyone and everyone (as in people we don't know)

Is she just a friendly wee thing?

She keeps trying to hug everyone (again strangers too)

Do you explain to her that maybe these strangers don't want hugged? Though she just sounds like an affectionate wee girl to me

The running away thing I would worry about...maybe bring up road safety & make sure she knows the consequences of running away.

I don't know about the hiding under tables when told off, as my dd does the same

Yeah think she is over affectionate BUT I do trghik she also does it as it winds me up

She knows road safety and has done stranger danger at school and at Rainbows as well as at home so she does know just doesn't care.

She was still awake when I went to bed at 11.30 last night and woke me up (fully dressed and ready to go out) at 6am this am.

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My 4.5 yr old ds is also hardwork atm, have no solutions, just want to say I sympathise!!!

Ta

Really think it must be an age thing, there have been other threads on this subject. How long has dd been at school??

Since September but was at same school before p/t and combine with play school for full time so thats not been a problem and she is a Sept birthday and the oldest in her year (though immature in someways)

Wrt the strangers issue it might be an idea to either find or write a story for her about what not to do. Sometimes telling a child (no matter how many hundreds of times ) just doesn't make it sink in enough whereas a story with pictures can really help. Something like social stories might help, as they can be useful for children without SN too. If you decide to try this then some kind of extra visual prompt can also help for when you're out and about, eg if you see that dd is about to approach a stranger you can show her a "No hugging" symbol/picture as a reminder. Again this method is often for used for children with SN but can also work well for NT children.

Re the hiding when told off issue: would it be possible for her to have her own special place where she can retreat to if she thinks that things are getting too much for her, eg under a blanket/table/cushion? When she comes back out you can then sit down with her (if needed) and talk to her about whatever it was she was being told off for. That way she can retreat as needed but you are also making it clear that it's not a means of avoiding having to do as you've asked etc?

The talking to anyone and everyone thing, I would not treat as a problem to be honest. I love it when kids talk to me, and I think at 5, it shouldn't be a problem. She is always either with a parent or a teacher iykwim so it is done in a safe way, specially as she HAS heard about stranger danger so you can always remind her that it's only ok so long as she's with a grown up.

Is it possible the hugging and running away are attention grabbing? What are the circumstances for her at the mo, what's your style, does she gets lots of playtime with you and/or sole attention from you and/or her dad?

As regards the hiding when 'told off', can you ignore more than you normally do for a week or two and see how it goes - I mean things like 'use your fork' - maybe you could lower your expectations on the little things for a time to see if this helps. Sometimes kids have to be told off if it's something big - and if she chooses to hide, well fair enough. You sometimes have to do it and she can respond in that way if she likes. But maybe it's a reaction that would happen less if you totally lighten up on the day to day stuff?

More positive praise to raise her confidence?

These are just ideas and thoughts, not saying that I think she is unconfident, you know! Just thought I'd put a few things down and you can knock 'em all down in flames if I'm on the wrong track

I am divorced (split before she was born so she has never known any difernt.
I work p/t term time only but when I am at work its my parentts who look after them so she gets a lot of attention.
Another habit she has is going off to phone my Mam and complain about me [rolls eyes]
She has one of those egg chairs and I have tried encouraging her to go to her room when she is cross but most of them come when we are out.

Definatly confidant and happy! Just likes to get her own way I think and she wants everyones attention.

Also she is quite cheeky to strangers too 'werewolf' is a favourite atm
She has speech probs so its not always understood though!

Her dad has been round tonight and was quite shocked at her behaviour
Tamtrums at ;
no more food , I am making tea
dd1 wouldn't pick her up (she is only 7)
time to tidy up
time for tea
an the biggest one was over me hiding the phone.

He said she was like that at the w/e but put ot down to being excited after being away and she had presents for everyone etc.

he thinks its to do with her speech and pther kids not playing with her but I have seen her with other kids (Rainbows) and noone treats her any different (she actualy seems very popular.

Other thing that seems to be a prob that she gets a fuss from dd1 when she gets upset/paddies