Hi there, just after some advice regarding behaviour and rewards with my dss (and to a certain extent dss)
Dss is 6 and dss is 8, and have time daily on devices..
Recently dss behaviour has been challenging - he has reached the point of challenging instructions, and according to his mum, getting confrontational when he is at their home. She has said that banning him from his psp has had no results to speak of, so dp and i thought about doing it in reverse - get him to "earn" his time on the playstation for doing small tasks... ie reward him for his good behaviour and hopefully encourage more good behaviour, rather than punish him and have nothing left fo remove when he continues..
Examples are: tidying toys away after playing, doing some maths or english work books, being well behaved and as he has been asked with no strops..
And then like yesterday, he was told that if he refused to do as he was told he would lose some of his time he had earned... which is what ended up happening.
And yes... i realise kids should be taught to tidy their tots away as a basic thing, but unfortunately I've walked into the family and their established habits - trying to make small adjustments where possible to make my and dp's life as easy and normal as possible!
I guess what I'm trying to ask.. is is this more rewards for behaviour, and encouragement to maintain good behaviour, or bribery where we are setting ourselves u to fail later down the line?
I have none of my own children, and no younger family members so I have been thrown headfirst into it all, and am trying my best!
Thanks..