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Can my 3YO's new bed be a double?

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pendulum · 01/06/2007 14:40

Hi there,
We are about to move my DD out of the nursery and her cot (it is a big one!) and into a new room and bed.

Currently the room is our guest room and has a double bed in it. We have been planning to get rid of the double and move in a single (have one on offer from the ILs). Last night DH said he didn't understand why she can't have a double bed with a guard rail if necessary- that way, we would still have a guest bed for our (rare) overnight visitors if she came in our room for the night, and we wouldn't have the hassle of selling the double.

It seems inappropriate to me to put a small child in a double bed but the only rational reason I can think of is that she will feel "lost" in it and insecure after her cot. Is this a valid reason? Anyone have any views?

Thanks!

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Nemo2007 · 01/06/2007 14:44

I dont see why not. If you worry about her feeling lost am sure she will love sharing it with all her dolls and teddys..lol

beansprout · 01/06/2007 14:50

It's a shame that she can't have her own room, and that the occasional guest is still the priority, but I don't see any particular reason why she can't sleep in a double bed. Is it her room in every other respect? I mean, does it look like a little girl's room or a guest room?

Rusty · 01/06/2007 14:54

I think my DD would have loved this when she was 3! I agree with nemo about the dolls & teddies - if she has as many as DD did, she probably would never get close enough to the edge to need a bed-guard!
Also makes storytime much more comfy for you & you could sleep there if she was ill too.

MamaMaiasaura · 01/06/2007 14:54

A single bed would leave more play space and you can get them with guest one underneath that slids out to make a double.

imo moving to a bed of your own can be a big thing and ds loves his bed.. mid sleeper with tent etc. Also kids bedding comes in single sizes so she wont get all that either.

haggisaggis · 01/06/2007 14:55

My ds went into a double bed at around 2 years. Only problem is that guard rails are meant for single beds - so teh bit that goes under the matress only went half way along. Also you can't get kids' style bedding - but we made do with Ikea bright coloured stuff.
Actually, a double bed does have a few advantages - you can cuddle right in beside her to read bedtime stories, or if she's up through the night (if ill for instance) you can cosy in beside her without getting too cramped!

NKF · 01/06/2007 14:55

Great for sleepovers.

escape · 01/06/2007 14:57

My daughter wnt from Cot to double bed T 2yrs for very same reason as your suggesting . we'd moved abroad and only had the 2 bedrooms - so yes, we did get guests, then she was small enough to sleep in with us then

she was fine, maybe even saved us a few trips to put her back into bed - less likely to roll out?!? At that time (4 years ago) Next were selling some of their kiddie bedding in double too so she had anext angel bed set! good luck

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pendulum · 01/06/2007 14:59

Thanks for replies! Yes, it will certainly be her room- we are about to redecorate it and since she has requested "pink and red" I doubt anyone else will want to sleep in it! And by "rare" visitor I mean perhaps once/ twice a year, she certainly wouldn't be in and out of it every weekend.

TBH I would prefer her to be in a single (esp as have already bought the cute bed linen) and suspect DH is motivated mainly by reluctance to drive 2 hrs with van to get the new bed. But since I was unable to come up with many compelling arguments myself, thought I would sound out opinion. Any more gratefully received!

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pendulum · 01/06/2007 15:12

Interesting points about reading stories/ staying with her while sick tho', I hadn't really thought about that.

escape, is your DD still in a double? One other consideration is that we might need to scale her back to a single in future (e.g. if she needs to share a room with the sibling I am currently cooking!) and don't want to set her expectations too high!

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NKF · 01/06/2007 15:16

We're probably going to do this. Move my daughter from a three quarter size to a single, possibly a bunk bed. I'm not forseeing a problem. Some new bed linen and a hairband should do the trick.

haggisaggis · 01/06/2007 15:23

ds is now in a cabin bed (has been since he was about 4) - he was fine making the swap although I did worry at first about him not being used to the narrower bed and falling out!
A double bed is actually quite good as you can pile it with all these blasted soft toys they accumulate. I liked it as I could lie beside him reading a story while bf dd and we all had plenty of room!

Mrbatters · 01/06/2007 15:33

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escape · 01/06/2007 19:23

No - DD was back in a single two years later when we moved again - and didn't batt an eyelid, but she was aged 2 to 4 in the doiuble, so quite young. Only downside wsa one of us used to regularly fall asleep in there with her as you don't sit, you snuggle for stories etc, cos you've got room!

phoebechicken · 03/06/2007 20:47

I think a double would be fine. Next sell some of their children's bedding in a double size

WideWebWitch · 03/06/2007 20:47

My ds has been in a double since he was 3 and still is, he's 9 now. He likes it.

kazzia · 04/06/2007 00:28

My dd also in a double for similar reasons to you. Main disadvantage is having to wash & dry double bedclothes - particularly in event of accident. Pampers bedmats only in single size.

lochlanfaidesmummy · 04/06/2007 05:50

we moved our son now 22months onto a double bed when he was 17 months as it was a guest bed and it was all we had at the time and we couldnt afford a new single bed for him. he has never fell out of it and didnt really have any probs getting into it. We are currently looking for a double bunk for him( double on bottom and single on top) and any future children we have, as they can all share. doulbes are great for sleep overs and can last them till they move out of home so no need to buy a new one when they are teens.

babygrand · 04/06/2007 06:53

My dd has a double bed with an antique 4-poster frame. Although it seems huge, she has so many toys and pillows in there with here that there barely seems room for her!

NotQuiteCockney · 04/06/2007 07:04

One of DS1's friends has a double bed he shares with his sister. They seem happy with it.

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pendulum · 04/06/2007 21:03

wow thanks everyone, some good points.

kazzia, the washing could def be an issue as she is not yet training to be dry at night (didn't think there was much point whle she is still in cot).

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