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12 year old dd driving me crazy with lies

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Yupimamumof3 · 19/06/2018 19:13

Hi I'm a mum of 3 kids 2girls aged 12and 6 and 7 month old boy. My eldest daughter is causing so many problems it's unreal. She purposely lies breaks and ruins things and when asked why she lies saying she hadn't done it. Sometimes we see her and she will call us liars saying we are framing her. I have so much better things to do than frame my kids lol. Housework is massive burden. Partner works so he doesn't help much and he just gets fed up of the lies. We have been to the school and the doctors and we have had the whole we don't want to fill out a caf form and them saying she can chat to the school nurse it's done nothing.
My friends and family have noticed a massive difference in me I am no longer happy I'm always stressed tired and close to breaking point. I ended up sat crying into my pillow at the weekend due to lies and disrespectful attitude of my lovely 12 year old. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't know how to handle the attitude and lies they are awful and she thinks she is untouchable any advice...

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AClawley92 · 19/06/2018 19:19

I know this may sound basic but have you tried putting a consequence in place, maybe try her with a little of her own medicine as she may start to understand how it feels to be on the receiving end of it? Or talk to them about how it makes you feel, and do it as a group activity together with the other kids?

Yupimamumof3 · 19/06/2018 19:36

What do you mean by giver a taste of her own medicine we have told her we don't agree with lying on numerous occasions and I'm honest in saying she has threatened us with social services and childline for us grounding her or taking away her things as punishments.

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AClawley92 · 19/06/2018 20:25

I was gonna suggest blatantly lying to her and see how she likes it but if she is using childline as a weapon then I'd say call her bluff, even if it means prewarning these services that she could do this

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