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Coping with toddler once new baby has arrived

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newmummytonoah2016 · 19/06/2018 09:24

Hi

I’m hoping someone may have some tips with coping with 2 under 2 and to see if it changed anyone else’s eldest one for a start.

I had a baby 3 weeks ago and my little boy is 18 months, when she first came home he was fine and very affectionate and it was lovely to see. When my husband was on paternity leave he was also fine as we shared the load well, but it’s since my husband has gone back to work he seems to be playing me up a bit. When he gets frustrated he throws his toys sometimes when he’s told he can’t do something and twice they’ve just skimmed new babys head, which panics me lots. When told no he simply goes on to do something else cheeky somewhere else in the room.

Also he’s started to cry when I leave the room (this is usually due to tending to sister), we’ve also regressed with bedtime as he needs someone to sit with him instead of him settling off by himself. Which I’ve been assured by the health visitor is normal when a new sibling arrives, and to persevere with routine and he will hopefully fall back into old ways.

I’ve read lots of articles telling me how huge this is for them at their age and they are seeking love etc, it’s just really hard when he’s playing up to feel anything but frustration myself. I don’t think I anticipated the change it would be for him, if anyone has any advice of how to deal with his behaviours or how to keep him occupied it would be much appreciated.

Oh I should also mention the poor thing has just come down with a cold so this isn’t helping matters as he wants more of his mum naturally anyway.

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DieAntword · 19/06/2018 12:06

When my second was born my son literally completely ignored him (he was 18 months old). If he was asked if he'd like to interact with the baby he'd back away scared. His behaviour didn't change too much but I do wonder if his development slowed down a little because he got less focused attention.

Mostly the main thing that I did to keep sane was - well with my first we were a slave to his naps and couldn't go out till he'd gone down to 2 naps really - but with my second he just has to suck it up and nap in the buggy because I keep a full schedule of toddler distracting and wearing out activities OUT of my house so that I don't have to clear up so much toddler mess.

newmummytonoah2016 · 19/06/2018 23:26

Ah thank you for your response! I definitely feel I need to get my toddler out and about more, I think that’s why he’s so fed up and playing up as he’s bored. We’ve had a few double buggy outings so I’ll hopefully brave something a bit more energetic for him soon when I get my confidence!

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praisebebitches · 20/06/2018 13:52

Same age gap here, getting out of the house is definitely the way to survive, walk to the park- baby sleeps and you can focus on toddler. Or any baby groups where you can bring buggy inside (again, baby sleeps and you can play with toddler).

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