my 3 year old son follows around a child who is mean to him at nursery. help!!

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my son is totally obsessed with another little boy same age at nursery. when i drop him off my son scrambles to sit next to him, hold his hand etc. the other boy pushes him away, and wants nothing to do with my son. my son regularly tells me this little boy says mean things to him like, 'you are not my friend', 'you are not invited to my birthday', 'i do not like you'
it is killing me. (maybe more so then usual since baby no 2 is due any second now).
i am friends with this boys mother and we have done things together with kids semi regularly. i want to avoid them all together. my son is hurt by the rejection but it does not deter him.
HELP!!!

I guess people have suggested the usual stuff like, inviting other kids to play and talking it up, pointing out nice things people do and ask if xxx does that, find out if he at least likes another kid and support interests that they could do. It sucks, I don't know if there is much you can do. I don't think it has anything to do with bad parenting or that your boy will always find horrible friends. It's quite common (i used to be a teacher).

try to get him 'hooked' on another child, one you do like - slightly younger children and (shoot me) girls are often a lot more tolerant of following around! And younger only children love it.

Ds1 has been both a follower and a followee, so there is a chance that in 3 months you will be posting about a little boy who is lovely but just won't give your ds1 five minutes to have a wee, and your ds is getting ticked off about it!