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3.3 year old ds extremely anxious, obsessional and upset all the time

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MrsLukaKovac · 23/05/2007 10:16

My ds has over the last 4 or 5 weeks become very anxious and obsessional. He has over the last 6 months or so really enjoyed getting into character, as has a range of alter egos he likes to act with complete conviction! Recently though any attempt to return to normality has him bursting into tears 'I'm not I'm a triceratops, and I have to sleep with my mask on because I am a real triceratops!'. The tears are not tantrums, they are real full blown panicky sobs and he practically hyperventilates.

He is also very sensitive. If his t-shirt is crumpled, or if he spills some food on his trousers, or if his nose is blocked - small things like this send him off into very strong crying fits because he wants to 'fix' the problem but says ' I can't do it I can't do it!'.

He also will not be comforted. When he is crying and we try to cuddle him and ask what the matter is, he hits, screams, kicks and scratches. He shouts out 'I like crying and I want to be sad!'. He is normally, when not having an episode, very very affectionate and cuddles and kisses all the time.

We are expecting another baby in 7 weeks, but so far he's been very positive about it. We have hardly talked about it, and there have been no changes to the flat (new bed, clothes etc) yet to make him feel unsettled. When we do talk about it he says he will love the baby and look after it. He hasn't been negative at all.

Has anyone else experienced this sort of extreme anxiety about small things?

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Enid · 23/05/2007 10:19

sorry but lol

reading all your post then getting to the new baby - it will be that. He will probably be much better when the baby is born and he can get his head round it.

Marne · 23/05/2007 10:26

This sound's like my dd (3.4) ,she has always been anxious and obsessional, she loves routine, if anything changes from her routine she gets realy upset, i have to read her the same book each night (for the past 2 months), she gets upset at the slightest little thing and she say's she's not very good at being happy .

She has a phobia of females which has caused endless problems (i had to take her out of nursery)

She worries about silly things like draws left open, dirty fingers, doors left open and has loads of phobia's.

I am taking her to see the health visitor today to see if i can get help with her phobia of female's.

Hopefully its just a stage they go through.

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