8 week old baby constantly miserable help!!

[Luna1987]

Hi Ladies, I have a 8 week old little boy who is constantly un-happy and it’s becoming unbearable, he screams moans and wines most of the day only with a few moments of happiness he goes form ok to crying in a matter of seconds, we have change formula, bottles tried different cots white noise baby massage everything nothing works, I can’t even say Iv seen him smile yet and I just don’t know what I’m doing wrong my husband,mum and sister spend the whole day just trying to pacify him, does this end and is there any help or advice everyone seems to have a happy smiley baby and it just isn’t like that for us it’s heartbreaking any help or advice would be much appreciated

Sorry things are very difficult for you at the minute.... some babies are screamers, others are complete opposite and some in between, it's hard to get a break when the cry and moan all the time, I know your pain, my dd was an absolute nightmare, never slept and I mean literally 20 minutes every few hours (and that goes for night time as well), she screamed, she moaned, she grumbled, I have the patience of a saint and even I was like arghhhhhhhh. Anyway I can assure you that your baby will settle eventually but in the mean time have you been to the health visitor to have him checked? He may have silent reflux, so extreme pain from gas (without throwing up), can you feed him a bottle (whole one) or is this broken in stages between crying? Does he have a particular comfort teddy or blanket or even dummy? Will he settle in a vibrating or rocking chair?
I'm afraid it is a case of trial and error to see what works but my best advice is doctors or health visitor and my god if they say nothing is wrong because he is putting on weight, strangle them...... write a list of things where he cries more, symptoms (no matter how trivial they are), when he settles etc etc..... if you can work out a pattern or something that helps it may help......

I know these are fairly obvious things and you have probably tried them all and I may sound like an idiot but I'm wishing you luck.