nearly 4 yo behaviour is it 'normal'

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my nearly 4 year old behaviour is upsetting for all. if yiu ask him would he like to go/do someting the answer is no or i dont want to - if we take/do anything with him its met with i want to do ....... and when we say no then tantrum, crying etc etc or h just starts to run around screaming and wont listen to anyone. i feel so sad about it as i feel that i am failing and is life is so awful. any advice

This is VERY typical - our nearly 4 year old has days where this is all she does.

This, too, will pass.

thank you i feel better

oh yes, we are having the terrible(nearly) 4s in our house having neatly skipped past the terrible twos. I have no advice other than have patience as we are yet to come out of this one alive! I'll be watching with interest, tho.

DS had the most godawful tantrums at about this age. Much, much worse than the toddler ones. Someone on here once described it as the 'f'@&er fours' which about sums it up.

I think you just have to stand firm, give lots of cuddles but no ground. I think it's a confusing sort of age for them and they kick against it.

Hi
DD sailed through terrible twos so i was shocked as hell when she suddenly started playing up at three. Friends had this too - apparently called threenagers.
I found totally non responding helped. She had a rough time as her older brother is ASD and compared to his tantrums she was an amature. She would pout and slam doors and shout and I completely ignored until the light dawned and she got the idea it wasn't working. Her big brother turned 13 at the same time. Fun house huh !

I feel so much better now!!
My DD is 3.9 and if I hear the words no or I don't want to again I feel I may staple her to a wall
The only time this week that we havent argued in the morning about getting dressed was Monday when she chose a princess fancy dress outfit, which she did wear all day.
And DH wonders why I am so worn out at night.........everything is a battle.