As a bit of background.... We have lived overseas for 2 years but are moving back to the UK in August. DD is currently in year 1, the youngest in the class but seemingly the brightest.
Since at school DD has found the social side of things difficult firstly because of the individual she is, she's the youngest and there's an almost 2 year age spectrum in the class. In kindergarten she had a love - hate relationship with one of the other girls. This has escalated as year 1 has progressed to hate-hate although the girls seem to find it difficult to stay away from each other(!). There's been a lot of devisive behaviour and pushing etc on both sides. Normal advice from the teacher and parents has been to stay away from each other.
This week DD was down when I picked her up after school. She said nothing was wrong then admitted to missing her dad who's away this week. Cue lots of hugs etc & an enquiry that was all of the problem. Then DD said the other girl had punched in the stomach along with a bit of name calling. DD was adamant this had happened. The following day we went to see the class teacher to talk about what happened and she said that an eye would be kept in everything etc etc. I took all the kids to a cafe after school.as a treat.
Anyway, cutting out the whole conversation. DD admitted to lying. She was never punched. There was an altercation where DD was offended but that is it, no hands on at all.....
DD for once in her life appears truly apologetic and clearly had not thought about the consequences of her lie. She was punished yesterday (early to bed, no TV) and is very aware that if she does this again her birthday party will be cancelled.
I guess I'm worried, once the lies start will they continue? Is DD missing attention so much that she has to lie for it? Have I been too heavy handed, or have I not brought about sufficient consequences?
Any advice appreciated!