So I whenever I ask my son to help with jobs it's a major pain, huge meltdowns and I need help. Tonight I was busy, so I asked youngest to dry some pots, dh was emptying the bin, potatoes needed peeling and there were a few pots to wash, a couple of plates plus glasses and cups nothing major. I could then do potatoes.
Asked 9 yr old to help wash the pots, checked water was cool. ds initially refused but then out a finger in water and screamed he had scolded himself, so I grabbed his arm to stop him from running off (to avoid chores) and with my other hand plunged in the bowl i said the water was not hot.
Ds then yelled that I had punched him 
God knows what the neighbours are thinking as he tells to his dad that I had punched him. Ds refuses to budge and I swear I would never ever punch him.
I can't have him making false accusations against me every time I ask for help around the home. I have tried to explain that if people seriously think he is being hurt by me, i will have to leave, he seems unfased even though he often struggles to sleep without me. I am so upset and disappointed by his behaviour but don't know what to do