daughters behaviour is dreadful & keeps asking to go home (moved house 5 months ago)

[chocolatemummy]

We moved house and area five months ago. My daughter was very unsettled for a few weeks and then seemed to settle down once starting nursery etc. but for the last month she has just been terrible. She has become a spoilt brat, screaming, demanding, grizzling and
now everyim we come home, as soon s we get near the house she starts crying and saying " I want to go home", "I dont like that house" etc and we sometimes have to prise her out of the car. the neighours must think we have a devil child.
We decorated her room first to make it nice for her and the garden although not as big as our last one is very neat and safe and has all her toys in. We have been very giving to her because we have moved and its hard for her but I am at the end of my tether? I wonder how much of it is genuine and how much is just her being a brat?

How old is she?

Maybe the first months were a novelty, being somewhere new and having a new room etc. Now she has realised that you are not going back to the old house.

Our DD still talks about our old house even though we moved almost 2 years ago when she was 3. She is not upset now but she remembers that she used to live somewhere else.

please any advice wold be very appreciated, is this a normal response to moving home?
Is it just a behavioural stage? (she is 3.5)
please help because all i see is a very unsettled and very unhappy child who seems to spend more time in tears than anything else,
I dunno maybe the house is haunted and she can see something we can't!

my dd was only a little bit older when she got a sister and she was fine for about 3 months and then turned into a brat

whining etc

we just were v supportive to her and waited for it to pass

certainly don't feed it: 'is it the house, darling? what's worrying you about it?' stuff

just lots of cuddles and fun stuff till she forgets

Maybe shes realised it gets a good reaction from you, children sense the guilt thing, Oh no ive made you unhappy, what can I squeeze out of it...
Maybe spend some time drawing and painting the new house, pointing out the lovely....whatevers and asking how she would like to put her mark on it?

Did anything happen to make her dislike your new home? Is it just the house or the whole area (nursery etc)

Perhaps if you invited some old friends of hers from your previous neighbourhood she would see that the new house is not horrible.

well we have been doing that! asking whats wrong with the house, how can we make it nice etc, pathetic I guess but desperation!

She is a an only child and gets alot really, I try my hardest to make sure she is not spoilt but I feel sometimes like she is in control

we have moved almost 200 miles away so old friends bit is a bit out of question but her nanna and grandad come up once a month, she is close to her other nanna and cousins now and loves nursery, but also I am working full time no I used to work 3 to 4 days a week so thats changed too

oh I think she has seen the chink in your armour I think charlie is right

she's had her chance

be lovely to her but don't engage on the subject of the house. if she is feeling unsettled then she needs love anyway, not paint

there is a great Little Princess book on moving house that she might like. Can't remember what it's called though... hang on a mo

I think very comforting routines for bed etc if you are working full time

treats for weekend (not food treats, doing treats)

pyjama days in house with hot cocoa in front of telly

hmmm, I was wondering how much was real fretfullness and how much was just manipulation. She has been having bad dreams though, she IS unsettled I am sure but she IS also milking it a bit. I rally hope it does pass because its horrible me and my dh feel awful when we drive up to our new home (which we love) she starts screaming!

How about spending some time in the garden, letting her have her own "plot"? My two love digging in the dirt and it might make her feel she has put down roots, so to speak

yes she loves the garden, i know she misses our big garden, I could get some nice plants and let her name them and plant them I guess.

Combo--Little Prncess book?

Thanks girls for your support