My 9 year old step son was over on the weekend, I was hoovering the landing which over looks the lounge, I heard my step daughter shouting so went down and she told me that my step son had a cushion over my 4 month year old, she said she tried to stop him but he was too strong. Luckily my son was ok but it could've been disastrous wondering what steps we should take.
His Dad asked him if he did it and he admitted it but lacked empathy by not crying until 45 minutes afterwards which is extremely concerning as he normally cries at the smallest things. He said he did it because his ears were hurting and he wanted to shut him up, my baby was cooing on his gym, not even crying.
His Parents split up 3 years in September and he changed schools when they split where he was bullied for a period of time but now he has a good group of mates.
When we were trying for our son he surprised us by asking us if we could have children before we told him we were expecting. When we told him we were expecting he was really excited and screamed the restaurant down with excitement when we said it was a boy! He always wants to sit by his brother in the car and fights with his little sister to do so and is always playing with him etc. It's just so shocking that this has happened.
His mom is blaming my partner for not seeing him enough, my partner works full time and has them every other weekend from Friday - Sunday. He also sees them on a Tuesday on the weekend he doesn't have them.
I just can't understand what was going on in his head to put a pillow over a defenceless babies face when he's 9 years old and his 6 year old sister knew it was wrong. Kicking myself for hoovering but I was literally out of the room for under a minute.
I feel like I don't want him in the house as I won't be able to go to the toilet, take a shower or anything whilst he's here - any advice?