Boys outburst

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I have an 11 year old boy for a long time now he has been the following
Argues about everything black is white etc.
Gets very angry loosing games if things don't go his way if he doesn't want to go somewhere shouts slams doors etc.

I don't think it's an 11 year old boy thing he for years has struggled to get to sleep at night Once asleep sleeps through the night but takes ages to unwind.

I took him to the doctor to the sleep and was told to keep him up later (he currently goes to bed about 9:39/10 but takes about an hour to get to sleep but always gets up fine) the doctor said if I kept him up later a natural pattern would occur - - doctor also kind of emplied "well what do you want me to do I don't think drugs will solve the problem". I didn't ask for that at all and was quite angry about him saying this.

At the moment we feel that our son needs some help to manage his anger. We have spoken to
Him about this but he is really worried that friends will find out and tease him and that me will get labelled. He does acknowledge his anger - we feel sometimes we make a bit of progress but it tends to go full circle again. Does anyone have any advice? I feel a bit reluctant going back to the doctor, perhaps we should make an appointment to see another doctor? Any advice much appreciated we are worried sick that his life is going to turn bad if we can't help him get hold of this. He's a bright boy but getting him to apply himself of to anything that his friends don't deem as cool (even if he's good at it). Is near on impossible and we are battling daily which is making us all sad.

Thank you

I'm really sorry to hear this is so hard for you and for him, it sounds a little like my ds anxiety symptoms although he is younger. I would try my hardest to maybe see a psychologist or counsellor and just remind him that we only need to tell people (his friends) things we want them to know, otherwise these things are private. I would also try to look for some other influencing experiences, like camps, clubs and days out which will help him to be his own person away from these peer pressures. One thing that has really helped our ds was having a blood sample and stool samples taken to check if he has any deficiencies, sometimes our bodies need extra vitamins and minerals to get through these rough patches, as for my ds he takes highly active ingredient fish oil liquid and some B vitamins as prescribed by a naturopath. We also try our best to encourage having personal achievements, although the outbursts still happen on occasion he has seen a huge improvement, we try our best to show him we love him and support him even with the highs and lows.

Just to add to the above, we also discovered that many food additives and colours or msg (eg: paprika chips) have an up to 3-day lasting effect in ds body which was making his outbursts worse. We also removed most sugar, dairy and gluten at different stages (not all at one time) to see if this helped him respond better. Although its the angry outbursts we are trying to minimise, we found that he was reacting to foods he was eating which were making it twice as bad. We also took up a lot of sport and spent time outside, all these things together really bough on the huge improvements.

Thank you I had read about fish oil - which brand do you use? This week we went to see our GP with him - I managed to get him on board the Gp asked him a few questions about what makes him angry and assured him that we care about him and sometimes we say no because we are being good parents etc. This weekend has been better for example he had taken sweets from the cupboard but gave them back to me at bedtime as he though better of it (this is good progress). I am trying to spend more time explaining my "no's" to him and my husband is going to have a night a week when they do sport together other than him just doing his soccer. The doctor has asked us to make another appointment in 3 weeks or so we can renew things then, I was treading lightly at the Gps office as I didn't want to unsettle my son to much on our first visit so I kind of got the impression the gp didn't quite understand how long it had been going on for. I wanted to ensure my son felt the gp was there to help and that we were not just going to sit there and tell the doctor all the bad stuff about him. I think it is going to help although I could tell my son was really nervous which was quite hard to watch - it appears per the doctor that he had a high level of wanting fairness. We will keep working at it and see how the next appointment goes.

We use Springfields Eye Q Liquid, to get the best result it's important to build the levels in the body before cutting down the dose as per the packaging. Good luck!