16 month old lashing out

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Hi everyone :)

I know it’s probably just a phase as he was being a little temperamental a couple of months ago, but my just 16 month old is becoming really difficult when being taken away or moved from something he wants/wants to do, we get kicking out, backwards head banging and now he’s started to hit in the face.

I just wanted some tips on how to deal with it or if anyone had similar. It’s hard not to shout no because the hitting can hurt sometimes, but I’ve decided just to hold onto his hands remove him from the situation and leave him to it.

I know not being able to communicate is frustrating him too,

Thanks

He is just learning to communicate his needs, wishes and emotions and he's beginning to be aware that doing this can sometimes affect decisions you make.

He won't understand that hitting your face causes you pain and he's too young to learn from any sort of explanation or sanction.

All you need to do is not let it change any decision you have made, make sure he can't reach faces to hit them or kick you and allow him time to be cross while knowing you are close by and will be ready for a reassuring cuddle when he is.

Don't walk away or make a big show of not caring. These big waves of emotion aren't pleasant for children and they need to know you still care and they are still safe.

When he's in full meltdown, he probably won't be able to process language so don't bother trying to communicate much other than that you are there and it's going to be OK.

Thank you so much for your advice