DD lying

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10yo DD has been lying to her friends.

I've just read some of her chat messages (I told her I would be reading and monitoring) and she told a girl that she used to do a club with that she had moved to Italy, and was back because it was a holiday and was probably going to move back to the UK. She has never been to Italy and not sure where this has come from.

She also said she was busy taking a stray cat to the vet. We do have a cat, but have never had charge of a stray cat.

She told another girl in her year that she had started her period (the other girl has already started her period).

Her dad is really dishonest (we are not together) and rather than put it all on his traits, I want to help her to be an honest person.

I am going to speak to her about this tomorrow. Can anyone offer me any advice or understanding on why she might be telling these lies?

She maybe feels the need to make her life more interesting to seem appealing? Or is attention seeking?

That's exactly what she said, to make her life seem more interesting. Makes me feel pretty sad and disappointed.

We are talking and going to work on strategies to be more honest. I need to figure out ways to raise her self confidence - I though she was pretty confident but maybe it's all an act

She does loads of things, some things of her instigation and others I encourage her to do. If she ever asks to do something I hardly ever say no. We travel lots and take day trips, which she complains about. I thought she had a pretty varied.

I get the period thing, I remember lots of people saying they had started at school but later it transpired they had not.

It may be a case of other people are doing the same? Kids at that age are good at exaggerating a story and groups of girls can scrabble to be the one that is centre of attention.
I get the period thing too, she won’t want to be laughed at or look behind.
Maybe it’s not to do with lacking confidence . Rather just wants to keep the conversation going or show off.
I wouldn’t come down hard on her just a quick chat about lying or she may keep doing it and hide it better from you creating more lies?