Other toddler knocking into my child at playgroup on trike & how to deal with it

[hippopowell]

Sorry for long title, but we were at a playgroup today at a large leisure centre and am unsure how to deal with other children when they are being horrid to my dd on purpose. The other child pushed my dd away from 1 car she was playing with so she went to another. He followed her to the other & stopped her playing with that. When she walked away he got on the trike & rode into her so hard she fell over. I was so shocked I picked her up & left. Thinking about it now I don't want her to think that is acceptable behaviour but can you disipline other peoples children?? help please thank you

Was the other child's mother there? In the situation you describe, I would have said something to the other child about how it isn't nice to push, and then directed him back to the original car, while helping DD back to the one she had. I don't see how the other child's carer could have been offended by that.

how old are they? sounds like the other child was trying to goad your DD...

Hello,
I only saw the mother after I picked up myDD & was so shocked I didn't know what to say. My dd is 15 months, he must have been about 3. I didn't say anything at the start as my dd wasn't upset by it all, just went off to find another car.
So you think it's OK to say something, I really don't want to upset anyone/the other mother

hippos are sticking together!

i would say something to the child too, not nasty or scarily, just "that is not nice please leave my daughter alone." so they know you have seen them. i certainly wouldn't leave over it.

thanks so much for that. Inside I wanted to say something, just didn't want to upset anyone or know if it was allowed IYKWIM.
Will not let it go if it happens again
Am very new to this playgroup politics can be a bit scary

I would have no qualms saying something to a child, even if it did offend the mother/carer, esp in the situation where the age gap is what you describe, and your DD did nothing to provoke. I would hope that someone would do the same if it were my 3 yr old doing the pushing and I hadn't seen. To be fair to the mum, it is hard to keep an eye on them all the time! My DS1 is 3 this weekend, and I have a DS2 to keep an eye on too, so I can see how this situation might arise, and would have no problem whatsoever with someone reprimanding DS1, so long as it was reasonable and not aggressive.

Agree with fishie that I wouldn't leave over it either. DD will need to see how to deal with things like this happening.

Hippo-power!