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Friends' sons curious about DD

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pineapple95 · 14/05/2018 13:35

We have known this family for a year or so. They have two sons, one is around 4 and the other is 2 and a bit. We've been to their house several times, and it's fab, the kids all play together and we adults get on well.

Our DD (2y 3m) needed changing, and the 2 yr old boy came and watched (with me sort of blocking the door). I thought no harm at all, he is a toddler, and couldn't really see anything. But the next time we visited, when we went to change DD, the older boy tried to come and watch, and I had to basically bodily block him from coming down the corridor to the bathroom! His mums didn't notice I think, and because we're quite new friends I don't want to say anything to rock the boat.

Is this normal for a 4 year old? And does anyone have any advice for preventing this happening again, other than directly complaining to the other parents and risking a misunderstanding with the other, lovely couple?

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PureColdWind · 14/05/2018 23:25

100% nothing wrong with what this boy is doing.

4 year olds are very innocent. Even my 6 & 8 year old sons are very innocent.

If you are uncomfortable, you can just ask him to leave as you are changing a nappy and its not clean or something.

soundsystem · 15/05/2018 22:11

Perfectly normal! Children that age are curious about everything, and completely lacking in inhibition. Does your own two-year-old not follow you when you go for a wee? I'm not really sure why you were bodily blocking their view, probably just made it seem like something very exciting was going to happen!

I have children the same age as your friends, and - to be honest - if you complained to me about this I'd think you were hard work. I mean, I'd be polite, and if it happened again I'd distract my child so as not to make you feel uncomfortable, but I would think you were nuts. Sorry!

Ozgirl75 · 16/05/2018 04:46

It’s totally normal for children to be interested in the human body - especially when it’s the opposite sex because it’s different to their own.

It’s not sexual if that’s what you’re worried about. I’m surprised by that age that your daughter hasn’t started commenting on your body to be honest. One of my sons’s first long sentences was “I got penis. Daddy got penis. Mummy got no penis” with a look of abject pity for me.

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