12weeks pregnant and 2.5yr old is driving me up the wall

[Mum8515]

Really wasn't wise getting pregnant right now, but it's done now & I'm totally against abortions!

Pregnancy so far is going fine. Problem is my 2.5yr old who's driving both me & dh up the wall! Also going through potty training which is another headache but has to be done.

He's constantly answering back, not listening, spitting, shouting/screaming, tantrums, pushing other kids at school! I don't know what to do! He goes to nursery 3 days a week but the rest of the time he's home, some days I just break down as it becomes to much and dh is at work only at home on a Sunday with us & evenings from 6.

How do I deal with his behaviour? Xx

What’s happening with the potty training OP? If he’s a little resistant, there’s no harm in stopping and starting again later. My DD wasn’t ready until she was a little older. I found Successful Potty Training an incredibly helpful book. It’s not a how too but is packed with tips from other parents who’ve been there.

Lots of his behaviour, like ignoring you and tantrums coukd be just because he’s 2.5 and that’s what they do.

Some of the other stuff he may need help with. If he’s pushing, is he getting frustrated? Is he getting a nap in the afternoon? How’s his speech? If he’s not listening, have you had his hearing checked? I once spent a week shouting at DS for ignoring me only to discover he couldn’t hear me as he had an ear infection

Have you read Calm Parent, happy kids too? Maybe download the free sample to see if you like the style of the book first as there are other you could like 123 Magic.

Don’t forget to look after yourself as well @Mum8515. I can remember being so, so tired in my first trimester.

Wow thank you for the reply JiltedJohnsJulie

He's ready for potty training, he does it so well at school. But this weekend we have gone cold turkey without pull ups & just gone for it. He's had a few accidents but nothing we couldn't just clean & get on with it. He asks to go for a wee every 5mins and sometimes doesn't even do anything, so that gets frustrating.

I put his behaviour down to him going through the 'terrible two's' but when I look at other kids his age they all seems to behave so sensible but then again so does he when we're out & about, it's more when we're at home he's a pain.

His speech is very good, I've actually been told by a few people that for his age a few months ago he speaks very well sentences & when he has to explain etc.

Listening - he knows exactly what I'm saying, he likes to ignore me! Answers me back most the time. E.g. Tidy up your toys - he'll quickly say 'No you do it' and then he'll change the subject!

I feel so tired it's draining. Just wish we had waited to ttc now until he was a little bit older. Feel I didn't plan it well xx