Please help me

[Missymoose]

I’m not sure why I’ve come on here but I’m at my wits end and I’m devastated, tired and upset .
I’m going to give you all a summary of what’s happening in my life right now which I think has contributed towards the problems I’m currently facing .
I have a son who is 6 and a daughter who is 5 me and their father separated a year ago and they saw him about 2/3 tines a week he had full custody of his daughter who I also helped to raise she started running away from home to see her mother who is a drug addict about 6 months ago and it got preogressively worse until my ex partner ( children’s father ) literally gave up and said to the social services he cannot cope anymore they tried to liaise with him and help him but it got worse my step diagnose ended up not wanting to go home and is now in temporary foster care so my 2 children haven’t seen their sister in 3 months they are upset over it and I’m trying to sort out contact with her social worker / the social services are also now getting involved in my life as my stepdaughter has made allegations against her father of neglect against her which is obviously nothing to do with me but the courts have ordered that social workers do a section 37 and 47 report on me and my parenting of my children this has completely turned my world upside down and I’m so depressed over it :-( the social worker isn’t a particularly nice woman and I feel like she tries to twist what I say the children now have to have supervised contact with their father which I don’t agree with but I’m literally doing anything they say because they terrify me . My children are expressing behaviours that I think seem like they are depressed my son is angry and aggressive continuously tells me he hates me and my daughter cries and whines and has become so sensitive

I feel like they are grieving for their sister and father a bit too but I’m getting stressed about their behaviours and then I feel guilty for shouting at them if they are struggling with the loss of their sister and dad I feel like I’m going to have a nervous breakdown

That is a lot of change for them to cope with and I understand why you are stressed. The only bits I don’t really get is why you don’t think the superbused contact is nexessary. Maybe I’m being naive but if he had nothing to worry about, surely regular contact will start soon? Also, I know it’s hard but try not to shout at them. Easier said than done I know but you can’t shout st them and not expect them to be angry and shouty with you.

The book Calm parents: happy kids might help Missy.