Anyone else at their wits end??

[Bubbaloo13]

DS is 10 weeks old tomorrow. Over the last few weeks his sleep has deteriorated to the point where on a good day he's now napping for about 2 hours maximum per day in broken bits. Nothing I do settles him into the deep sleep he needs and if I leave him to cry he gets more and more upset to the point where he's nearly choking. Most of the day he's irritable and fussy and I don't think he's feeding properly - EBF but he's fussing a lot and barely on long enough to get a good feed. I haven't slept properly in weeks and quite frankly I'm beginning to resent him although the small remaining rational part of my brain tells me it's not his fault, the rest is not thinking clearly and I am struggling beyond words. Am I alone with these feelings? What am I doing wrong?

I don’t have much advice, sorry, but it sounds horrible. My second was a little like that, she was fractious during the day and would only go to sleep on me and whenever I put her down, she’d wake after 15-20 mins. The phase didn’t last long, but she was feeding well, so I got a wrap sling and just let her sleep on me during the day while I got on with other ‘life’ stuff (bottle washing etc!). But sleep deprivation is the pits, I hope it gets better soon!

Please don't think you are alone... you are not! It's our instinct to want to settle our babies and when they don't we totally blame ourselves... first off well done on EBF and you are doing a great job (even if you think you aren't) the fact that you have come on here and asked for advice shows that you are already a great Mum who wants the best for her child.

I could be way off base here but only mention this as this was my experience with my DD... she was so hard to settle, short feeds, would not want to be put down, would arch back loads after feeding... anyway after some awful weeks and perseverance she was diagnosed with silent reflux... maybe do some research on symptoms and see if anything else adds up... she was totally fine with the right medication until her system matured. She's 2 and half now and no problems!

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Thank you both for your replies. Last night we stayed at Grans house so everyone can get some rest. Bless her she settled him and snoozed beside him while he slept and she sent me to bed to get some rest!! (He only woke twice for boobie) and she brought him upstairs to me for feeds. Miraculously he is like a different baby today! Fingers crossed for more of the same. Thank you for the reassurance that I'm not the worst Mum ever xx