Separation Anxiety from starting nursery

[Lauralee14]

Hi all, my little girl is 20 months and started Nursery 2 weeks ago, 3 days a week, she has taken to it amazingly, no tears, walks in happy, naps and eats well, doesn't want to leave when I got to collect. Once I get her home, she will not let me out of her sight, won't let anyone else deal with her not even daddy! To the point she shouts NO NO!

The nights have gone out the window, she is waking up screaming and won't let us leave the room, I've tried walking out and coming back in, makes her worse, I don't want to CIO. Have resorted to getting in the spare bed with her and she sleeps much better knowing I'm there. Do I just ride it out and sleep with her for now while she's anxious, am I going to prolong the anxiety if I keep leaving her to cry and leaving the room? Or do I need to be strong and just do it?

Any advice from mums going through/been through this appreciated .

Typed from tired mummy sat next to cot, again!!

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Personally I can’t see how leaving her alone is going to help but I know my parenting style isn’t for everyone.

I agree. In my experience with seperation anxiety don't push it it can really affect their mental health. So if she wants to be close let her be close spare bed sharing sounds like a good idea.

Thanks for replying ladies, I agree with you both, just didn't know if I needed to toughen up. We have gone with the flow and things have settled a bit. Not waking as much at night just likes us to be in the room whilst she falls asleep which can take a while but if that's what she's needing that's ok. X