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how to stop ds biting? new title for unanswered thread

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sauce · 15/05/2007 21:31

Ds, (3.6 & not that darling atm, actually) has bitten dd (6.11) twice in the past 24hrs. Yesterday he bit her on the shoulder during a heated argument over who gets to drive the (pretend) bus & actually drew blood. He was severly told off, sent to his room and then told off again by dh when he came home from work. Inspite of promises "never to bite again", ds and dd were rowing again this afternoon & guess what? another bite. I could see the toothmarks. Unfortunately, I didn't hear the disputes as I was elsewhere in the house. Dd can be an annoying little madam but nothing can excuse biting! FGS, what if he bites some child at school?!

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sauce · 15/05/2007 21:35

oh come on! haven't any of your precious children bitten? and what have you done (if anything) about it?

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Genidef · 15/05/2007 21:37

No biting - yet. She's started hitting though - me in the face this am. Yikes. My mind is actually blank - so this is more of a bump for you.

tombley · 15/05/2007 21:38

I am waiting with baited (or should that be bited?) breath for the answers.
My DD is regularly bitten by DS and he is currently living on the naughty step.

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sauce · 15/05/2007 21:38

Thanks for the acknowledgement.

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millie99 · 15/05/2007 21:39

Afraid to say I bit my DS back. He looked indignantly at me and said "that hurt" to which I replied "exactly-so don't bite your sister" and he hasn't done it again.

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sauce · 15/05/2007 21:43

Now there's a good idea!

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Genidef · 15/05/2007 21:52

This sounds to me a bit like smacking - which for the first time ever i was tempted to do this am when DD hit me. Trouble with giving her a spank after she's slapped is it's just basically telling her hitting is normal, mommy does it too. I'm really not being judgemental here - and if it's worked for you I can see why it would be tempting to recommend it. I'm just wondering if you're lucky!

adelie · 15/05/2007 21:55

Hi I'm new here, please be gentle with me. I have two children 5 and 3 years. Both of them have bitten, but only once because like you I bit them back. My son bit me when we were shopping. He was sat in a trolley and was at the right height to bite my arm so I just bit him back. He was more shocked/surprised than hurt but he has never done it again.

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sauce · 15/05/2007 21:56

I was being sarcastic.

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Genidef · 15/05/2007 21:57

okay...one never knows...and I know how diff this is for people and didn't feel like starting a row tonight!!!

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sauce · 15/05/2007 22:02

Me neither! I might bite someone...

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tinkerbellie · 15/05/2007 22:44

dd is 18 months and is a terror, she wil go for you for no reason to bite or nip, she keeps attacking ds (5yrsold) like this even if he hasn't done anything

then when you tell her off she will get really angry and try to bite you or she can;t get to you shewill bite her own hand and then cry about it!! or bite the sofa etc

never known anything like it, if anyone has some advice that would be great

have tried ignoring her, telling her off etc nothing has worked as of yet

and now she has started trying to nip the kids at ds school on they way in on a morning

kathrynharriet · 16/05/2007 00:07

Hi my DS 2.3 went through a stage of this, and loads of people told me to bite him back. I just could n't do it as i don't smack either. We just told him off then put him in a corner until he'd calmed down. He hasn't done it for a couple of months now, I think its just a stage
they go through! Lots of luck!

PetitFilou1 · 16/05/2007 11:42

My ds went through a bad phase of this at around 2.5. He was biting somewhere between 4-5 times a DAY at nursery (he goes 3 days a week) at the time. We worked with the nursery on a campaign of fire engine stickers, lots of praise, more individual attention from me on my days off and a strong talking to and time out when he did it. After two weeks it was significantly better and he eventually grew out of it (he is 3.3 now). He occasionally does it again when he is very upset about something but it is extremely rare now. It is a very common phase though although Dr Christopher Green in Toddler Taming does say they should grow out of it at earlier than 3.6 (I can't remember exactly when he does say though). Girls seem to go in for scratching and pinching and boys for hitting and biting. Unfortunately dd is starting to bite now (at 21 months) so I can see us having to go through the whole thing again..... She is not quite as strong willed as her brother though so hopefully it will not end being quite as bad an issue. And before anyone says, they are both very happy at nursery!

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