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podgybum · 14/05/2007 06:24

I am so fed up with my daughter of 10 and the arguments we have (which I try not to have) it's unreal. I cannot believe how she talks to me and I know I shouldn't but I get so upset. Any ideas of the sort of punishment or action I should take because everything I have tried hasn't worked.

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warthog · 14/05/2007 07:59

have you tried absolutely not responding whatsoever when she talks to you in a way you don't like? and persevered with it for a while?

McDreamy · 14/05/2007 08:02

My 4 year old does the same - it's a new behaviour for us so I will watch this thread with interest.

Warthog, if I ignore her but not explain why will she realise? I know that if I explain things to her I am giving her attention for unwanted behaviour so I feel I can't win.

BandofMothers · 14/05/2007 08:06

Mcdreamy, prob not at 4 yo. I tell my 3.5 yo, that if she doesn't talk to me nicely then I will ignore her. It works to a degree, but I think it will become more effective as she gets older.
Podgy, no idea with a 10 yo, but if you sit her down and tell her you wont be spoken to like that, and that all future rudeness will be ignored, it might work. Good luck.
I would never have dared do it to my mum, but parents nowadays have lost all their power, thru this pc, can't tell your kids off shite

warthog · 14/05/2007 08:08

you can't treat a 4 year old as you would a 10 year old.

i would say to your 4 year old 'we don't talk like that in this house.' sounds like there are underlying issues though.

McDreamy · 14/05/2007 08:09

Underlying issues? Sorry I don't know what you mean

warthog · 14/05/2007 08:14

yes, sorry, i'm talking crap

McDreamy · 14/05/2007 08:16

That's normally my job!!!!

warthog · 14/05/2007 08:17

i guess i meant 'is there a context'. please ignore me.

warthog · 14/05/2007 08:17

McDreamy · 14/05/2007 08:21

After re-reading the op our situation is a bit different - there are no arguments she just started to answer back a bit. I think she's picking things up from Pre School and testing them at home which I realise is normal. I just want to nip it in the bud and was after a bit of experience and advice. Bit of a different situation really to the op, sorry for the thread hijack podgy

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podgybum · 14/05/2007 18:50

I must admit even though I am the adult I do bite a bit too much. I think I will try the "you don't talk to me nicely I will ignore you". As Bandofmothers said us parent are very limited these days all I know is I must try and put a stop to it as it will only get worse and she has a younger brother who will copy. Thank for points.

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