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6 year old daughter... ASD, ADHD or just over reacting?? PLEASE HELP!

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BlackLioness · 18/04/2018 21:10

So I have the most beautiful loving 6 year old daughter- who has a great sense of humour. She is an only child.

School - she is on an independent learning plan for mathematics with suspected dyscalculia.- she has friends and is achieving average in all other curriculum areas. - teacher reports no concerns re behaviour.- she is attending a lunchtime work shop to help her deal with anxieties and her emotions. The group also looks at raising confidence - she struggles to concentrate on homework and this often takes time having to start, stop and revisit to complete it - my daughter says when they are having carpet time she struggles to listen and concentrate.

Home- ever since I can remember my daughter has always been 'different' even as a baby - she hit all her milestones - she cries very easily about the smallest of thing - she has a breakdown if I tidy her room (even just throwing rubbish out) and she will throw things around to make a mess again - she is very fussy with food I mean I can count on one hand food she will eat - she is over sensitive to noise and will cover her ears - she is over sensitive to materials. She will not let me buy her new clothes and even the clothes she likes once washed and out in again she will breakdown crying saying they are 'pringly' the last tantrum she had getting ready lasted 3 hours - she doesn't and won't have her hair any other way than a low pony n again will cry and breakdown if I try to do it different or put a product in it. She will mess it up and rip the bobble out - she is very anxious and worried over everything - she picks her cuticles and nails sometimes making them bleed slightly - she struggles to go to sleep - she talks excessively and I mean excessively - she likes to draw and watch her iPad nothing else despite my efforts - she is very clingy and even. When just in a different room will continually shout n check u are still there every 5 minutes - she likes time in her own to "calm down" in her words

My daughter is well behaved, well mannered and good as gold. Is there something wrong or am I over reacting??

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BlackLioness · 18/04/2018 21:12

Forgot to mention cannot sit still. She wriggles in her seat even when eating x

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Kleinzeit · 18/04/2018 21:43

It sounds as if she has quite a lot of sensory issues, you might find The Out-of-Sync Child helpful. I can see why you are concerned but it's not really obvious if there is something like ASC or ADD. Girls especially can sometimes be good at masking the signs of an ASC, they observe other children and copy but without quite understanding. These things often become clearer as children grow up, for example if she starts to find it harder to get on with other children as she gets older.

BlackLioness · 18/04/2018 21:49

Thank you I will look at that.

At the moment there are no concerns with her developing and maintaining relationships with her peers I don't think. She is becoming more socially isolated though - not wanting to try after school clubs, not wanting to go to parties, busy places etc

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KingIrving · 19/04/2018 01:58

Send ALL screens in the house to the "repair shop" for two weeks, and that includes your cell phones, laptop, tv.
I have found these books on screen and attention fascinating and I would recommend you buy/borrow them. Screen have the capacity to isolate yourself, even we fall in these sometimes/ Ever wanted to binge on the new season of favourite series?
In children however, it is actually transforming the brain and brain connections, so you might want to experiment a fortnight with our any type of screen in the house. Pretend there was a electrical fault that fried them.
Being on her own reading a book is very different then being on her own with an iPad .

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