Oh god if i have to sort out another argument in this house i will snap!!!

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if my kids dont stopp bickering and being mean to each other, especially when their mates are here...........grrrrrrrrrrr

i have sorted out too many squabbles this morning.

Why do they have to bloody nit pick, have i brought them up to be sooooo intolerant of each other. Oh it really depresses me, think im getting a migrane and its not even lunch time

sounds about normal to me

have a cup of tea, a biscuit and leave the room for five minutes.

then tell them that this guy is coming for dinner

Have you tried not sorting out their squabbles, and letting them get on with it?

I look after siblings who used to fight constantly, until I said "I am sick of your fighting, I am no longer interested in it, I don't care if you fight" and now they fight a bit less.

I think the urge to intefere is v strong - you want things to be amicable and for them to learn how to sort out their conflicts fairly. Give it a go for a few days (or as long as you can stand the din) and see what happens.

I dont know why i feel the need to try and sort all their bloody squabbles out, if i was anyone else watching then i wiould tell them to sort it out, but I hear some really snidy things sadi and it really bugs me, plus DS has just smacked DD which is a real big no no. He said but she was bugging me, so i said, so your gonna do that to every girl that bugs you, i dont think so!!

plus DD has a gob like a fog horn and i dont think my nerves can take another dramatic session from her

Buy a copy of 'siblings without rivalry'.

I think when one uses physical force against the other is, as you say, a big no no. That's when you have to intervene and, imo, come down hard on the agressor.

Have a think about why you do intervene.... I know what you mean about the snidy things. Maybe don't interfere at the time and later mention to the snider that what they said was most unkind/babyish/silly etc.

How old are they?

they are 8 and 5 boy and girl. in that order, good idea about pulling them up later to tlak to them about it. i dont want them to grow up without being able to deal with the odd bad remark i just dont like teasing and nastiness.

If they argue when they have visitors, can you say, 'that's it, xx and yy have to go home now because you have been so badly behaved'?

IKWYM
Mine are in 3 seperate rooms this afternoon as they would stop fighting and waking up dh who was working last night!