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Dsd fallen behind at school...is us having another baby to blame?!

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AJB3001 · 03/04/2018 19:22

So Dsd is 6 soon and has fallen behind at school with her reading and writing, she had quite abit of time off in October time because she had grommets fitted. She was always slightly behind because she couldn't hear properly and had recurrent nasty ear infections but she seems to be falling further and further behind, my concern is that it's because we are having alot of changes, in two years she has gained me as a step mum, my two year old son as a step brother and me and her father are about to have our first baby in seven weeks, I can't help but feel like maybe it's been a bit much for her maybe and that's why she is struggling. I have ordered her some of the WH Smith's gold stars learning books to do at our house on a weekend and going to send them home with her so her mum can do some during the week with her too but is it possible that all these changes are whats causing her to fall behind and if so do we talk to her about how she is feeling? She seems really excited about having a new baby brother or sister but I'm just concerned for her :(
Xx

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 04/04/2018 12:49

It does seem like a lot of changes, but it’s unlikely to be the cause, it sounds like her hearing is a major issue.

It’s lovely that you are so concerned about her but what are the parents doing? Have they been into school? What is the school and parents plan to investigate the cause and get her back on track? As for the books, will her DM be happy to do them with her in the week?

AJB3001 · 04/04/2018 20:30

Her hearing has improved alot since having the grommets fitted but I think it really kid have set her back!
I don't want to be like the interfering step mum type because it purely is just concern for a little girl that I love dearly, her mum and I have never even had a conversation in the whole time I've been with her dad which I've always thought slightly odd given that both our children call the same man dad and that she stays with me two nights a week but I'm not one to complain really if she doesn't feel the need to. I have made some flash cards today so that we can teach her about how different letters sound and what they sound like when they are put together. Whether her mum does this kind of thing with her at home I don't know because she told us when we asked that her mum doesn't read with her but kids say all sorts don't they so who knows. Any suggestions on good starter books I could get to help her get reading would be massively appreciated or any tools online I could use! Thank you :)

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 06/04/2018 19:44

If you want some starter books, I’d take her to the library and let her chose her own, but keep the books at your house. There should be lots to chose from, ones she can read herself and ones you can read together.

Some books she might like are Horrid Henry Early Readers, Flat Stanley, The Worst Witch, Funny Bones. If you want a book to read to her, my DD really enjoyed the Magic Faraway Tree at that age.

If you want to help her, it might be worth finding out which scheme they do at her school. Ours do Read Write Inc at that age but not all schools do. Honestly though, reading to her and getting her some books to read for herself should be enough 🙂

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