16 mo doesn't follow commands

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I'm not sure why I'm posting really but I'm getting very worried about my ds. The main thing is he doesn't follow simple commands. He will sometimes, for instance he will sometimes point to the chair/dog etc etc if you ask him 'where's the...' but he has never got anything if I ask him and certainly can't process more complex things.
He does:
Points and says 'this' to the things he wants
Follow your direction when you point
He says over 30 words
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Interested in people and other children
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Brings toys and books to show you/read
Does some pretend play such as pretending to be on the phone, cooking or brushing hair
My worries are:
Mainly the lack of following commands
Not interested in teddies or dolls
Doesn't often obey 'no'- usually grins or gets upset
Gets very upset at nappy time
Can have bad tantrums

It's really beginning to worry me and preoccupy me. His hearing has been chucked and the hv send through an extended aqas questionnaire which he passed.

Any thoughts?!

Apologies for typos!!

No thoughts other than he's very young but it's great that he can say so many words already! Dd2 wasn't interested in teddies till after she turned 2 so I think it's quite normal, and also I think it's quite normal if they don't follow simple commands at that age.

That's normal.
30 words is fab to .
Mine is 2 and only has 20 ish

The amount of words at his age is really great, I wouldn't worry about him not being interested in teddies or dolls, he plays with other toys instead yes? My lb only liked one Teddy 14 months old and continued to only care about that teddy until he was about 2&1/2 then moved on to include other teddies. Him not following commands... Is it he can't or won't (as in he's not paying attention, not listening, TV on etc) or is he looking at you listening and looking confused/blank stare?

Thanks all for your replies. It's pretty much a blank stare for most requests although for certain ones such as 'go to the bathroom...' he grins cheekily and goes past. I think he understands those but chooses not to go. He sometimes replies with 'no' and shakes his head. But for the 'get me a book' etc he hasn't a clue what I mean. I think the number of words he says masks his lack of understanding if you see what I mean. Everything I've read re not acquiring speech until later says 'it's normal so long as they understand...'

When you tell him "get me the book" are you pointing at the book showing him where it is? Because at his age I don't think they could go find an item without it being pretty close by and pointed out to them. I used to worry about my lb at that age too a lot, did he clap on time, was he pointing enough, does he know what I mean etc it's a hard time especially if it's your first child and you have nothing to compare to/experience but I honestly think 14 months is a bit young to expect them to know all the commands.

Oh and also from the original post getting upset at nappy changes, very very normal. Some kids dont seem to mind it, others it's a real struggle when they stop being babies and turn into toddlers, that can go on for months and months btw until potty training for some children! Tantrums are also normal as long as you can understand and see what he's getting frustrated over (such as not knowing a word, being told no, a toy not doing what he wants it to do).

I have an 8 year old with autism and I also have an 18 month old baby and from what you describe about your son he sounds like he is developing very normally.

My son's almost 19 months and is almost exactly as you describe, except he doesn't say anything like 30 words. I think you're expecting too much!