20mth old behaves more like 12mth old

[nutcracker]

This has been nugging me for some time but I just kept thinking I was being daft, but I am almost convinced that Ds is behind developmentally speaking.

He is still not talking hardley at all. He doesn't say mom or dad, he used to but not now. He can say goodnight and thankyou BUT noone else knows he is saying it, only me IYKWIM.
I got him to say tree the other day and he walked around all day saying it, but now he doesn't know it.
If i say where are the trees then he will look at them but won't say it.

He just seems to be quite a baby still IYKWIM, whereas my friends son who is 3 mths older was more like a toddler at that age.

Do you know what i mean ?? I don't think i'm explaining very well.

Oh and the other thing is that if I or anyone else call him then 9 times out of 10 he won't respond at all, won't even flinch.

If his problems are recognised and dealt with well by the school anyway there may not be much point in a dx. It's useful to access outside help, but if you don't want any you may not want to bother. Unless you want extra time in exams- but you could wait a few years for that anyway.

Hi again guys, thanks for all the help. Am feeling a bit overwhelmed now, like i've opened a big can of worms.

Ds now probably thinks i'm completely mad as i've been asking him to show me stuff all morning.
He did point to something voluntarily though. I was in the kitchen and he could see his beloved vacuum in the hall so he was shouting (not a word just a noise). I turneed around and he was pointing at the vacuum. That is good, right ???

I think at the end of the day, even if his pointing was spot on and he could build a tower, i would if i'm honest still be concerned as he just doesn't seem like he is 20mths old. If i saw him say at a park I would guess he was about 12mths old, maybe slightyl older.

Half of me wants to pretend i never said anything and carry on as normal now, but i know I can't do that.
He's my little angel and i just want him to be a normal little boy .

You are right though he is my 3rd and i know from dd's that something isn't right.

Just had a quick look on the Hanen website. There was a checklist on there which said that if you answered NO for any of the questions then a refferal to SALT was needed.

I answered No to nearly all for 18mths, and some for 15mths

That's exactly how I felt with my dd Nutcracker, something wasn't quite right. I also had my ds (who is 19 months older) to compare with. His language skills were very advanced for his age so the HV's were saying don't compare them, it's not fair as he is well ahead anyway. I was like No, I know something isn't right! As much as I wanted to bury my head in the sand and hope it would all go away I knew deep down it wouldn't!
My dd had glue ear and had grommets put in at 3. They have definitely made an improvement but glue ear certainly didn't cause dd's language disorder (Although I tried to convince myself it did). I am so grateful that we had early intervention as I believe it would have been a different story for dd. I found seeing the paed. reassuring and felt that he listened and no I was not going mad.

I just did the Hanen one too, the only neg we got was does your baby use "no"
she doesn't say no but she does shake her head no.
Does that count?
It's all a bit bloody worrying isn't it though...

Piffle my Ds can't say no either, he shakes his head. Can't do yes at all, just doesn't get it.

I mentioned my concerns to my mom and dp yesterday who both think i'm nuts and say Ds is fine.

He did a weird thing today though. I changed his nappy just before his nap, and then i said 'right wheres Scruffy (the dog he sleeps with so he knows what it is). Scruffy was over the other side of the room but clearly visable. I pointed to it and said "there he is".
I thought Ds had seen him as he appeared to follow where i was pointing too, but then he got up and started to walk around looking for him.
I pointed to him again, and Ds looked but still didn't notice him IYKWIM. It wasn't until i picked it up that Ds finally noticed, and it was right under his nose.

Your right though Piffle it is worrying.

dd does say yes, but half the tiem she's wrong
LOL
I just think she's cute...
It is prob worth getting it referred, it is better to ask and be told you're paranoid and don't need to worry, than to not bring it up and it be something that you could have dealt with earlier IYSWIM
Good luck stop worrying
ha ha