Hi, my 5 year old DD constantly whinges. She uses a whining voice 80% of the time, coupled with general impatience and reluctance to do as she's told. Please help!! It's driving me mad.
She's worse when getting dressed - my tights are twisted, my sleeves don't come down far enough, etc, or when asked to do something. Also, bizarrely, any new toys or treats seem to cause arguments (and we don't spoil her - she does not get them often). But generally everything else in between as well.
The problem is that she expects me to drop everything I am doing immediately and come to her to do what she wants. We were told this was an issue for her at nursery as well - she could not wait for things. I come to her if I can straight away, but we've never been the type of parents to give in instantly if in the middle of something.
If I'm busy doing a job or dealing with her brother (2yo), she won't listen to my requests to wait 2 minutes. She whines and whines, louder and louder. It escalates and ends with crying and me telling her off. She gets sent to her room.
Yesterday it was because she could not find number 36 on the board game we were playing. I was trying to find my DS something to watch on YouTube, so he'd leave us to play the game and she would not wait 2 mins for me to come to her.
She now has be get ready by herself in her room because of the whinging. I deal with tights, etc, when she comes out calmly afterwards.
It's the whining tone she speaks to me in (usually demanding things) that I struggle with, which escalates very quickly into crying tantrums.