Teenage daughter smoking

[mumtoateenger75]

I have found tobacco in my 15 year old Bedside drawer in a make up bag
Do I confront her or just take it and let her confront me

I wish someone had confronted me when I was that age. Do you have someone that can talk to her from experience of how they quickly slipped to addiction and have never been able to kick the habit? The calmer you can do it the better. Have the facts.
Chances are she doesn't even enjoy it, just doing it to be cool.

We have calmly spoken about it when I approached her about trying it once at a party and I explain all the dangers etc and I listened but also made it strongly across that I don't condone it and it's not good for her etc x she agreed and played it down but if she has tobacco then she is obviously still and more frequently smoking x

Confront her. Try to remain calm but don't wait for her to confront you.

Why were you in her bedside drawer? Only ask as its going to be one of her first reactions - why were you going through my stuff type thing. Don't really have any advice on how to approach this. Good luck!

I was looking for a tub of sudocrem x
I don't want tobacco in my house if she wants to smoke it I can't stop her I'm not with her 24 hours a day but I don't want her hiding in the house x

Sorry to clarify - i wasn't questioning why you were in there, could be a million valid reasons. Hope that didnt come across the wrong way. You're right you can't stop her really but you can frighten the shit out of her. Completely behind you witj not wanting it in the house ☺

I have taken it out of her bag without her knowing x let's see f she approaches me

It's fine kitchenbound

My parents caught me smoking on and off from 14-16. They always went in, guns blazing, screaming shouting. Didn’t get them any where, I still smoked, I was just careful I wasn’t caught again. DH also smoked from age 14, was never caught and at 16 his parents asked if he had tried it and he said he did smoke. They said he couldn’t smoke in/near home but couldn’t stop him.
I think have a sit down conversation with her. The heath problems won’t even cross her mind at 16, she may even just be doing it to look cool.

I’d show her some really frightening pictures of black lungs or I’m sure there’s a video online of smokers lungs. I think shock tactics are the only thing that might have worked on me as a teenager, my parents smoked though so I got away with it.
Quit the day I found out I was pregnant with my first child and haven’t smoked since tho 😀 it’s sucha dirty smelly habit so wish I’d done it sooner or never started in the first place. It was cool when I was younger tho, I thought smoking frowned upon nowadays ?

ie: not at all cool anymore

Hi op has your daughter noticed you have taken to tobacco?

I confronted her instead
I didn't loose it just kept calm and I actually cried think she was shocked but yes she does smoke and I said I was disappointed and I don't condone it and if I ever caught her with a cigarette in her mouth the scene wouldn't be pretty but I know I can't stop her I'm not with her 24 hours a day
I spoke about the dangers etc and she listened and cried too but is still smoking and said she isn't addicted but I know she is as she hasn't stopped

You're right OP you can't stop her but at least you have spoken to her and made your feelings known. Hopefully the message will sink in but I would assume she's doing it because its 'cool' tbh. Sure as hell can't be for the taste 🤢

I agree it's probably to look cool but I thought I brought her up to be more independent than that and it worries me that it's cigarettes now what if it gets worse x