Parental nudity

[naturalnatural]

Was reading in 'What to expect...' that it was quite normal for dcs to see dps of opposite sex nude until pre-school, I suppose about 4 or 5,when experts agreed it was not a good idea.

I was quite surprised by this as I saw my dad nude on a regular basis until I was about 8 or 9, when I naturally grew up...and both my parents and I gave each other more privacy...and am a perfectly balanced individual imo. Surely it's natural and healthy for kids to see parental nudity at least until that age? Agree that at puberty things change..but..

Would be glad for others' opinions on this.

I think what the book was suggesting was that to see the parent of the opposite sex naked might be 'disturbing' at a certain age.

I think the actual pointing out of this is what is disturbing...like the old story of Adam and Eve who didn't realise they were naked until they took a bite of the apple

I have always had a very healthy attitude to nudity and always saw both parents naked/ had baths with them until I got very self-conscious (normal I think) when I started going through puberty.

I haven't seen my father naked since that time, but often see my mother getting changed, and after puberty am quite relaxed about other female members of family seeing me nude and vice versa.

As discussed recently on the other thread about the 3-year-old girl being asked to wear a bikini top, its the being prudishly self-conscious of nudity that's the problem imo

I totally agree with the positive approach to nudity. However I must admit I did feel a bit uncomfortable when my ds (7) told me he saw his friend's mum nude in the bath. The two boys were squabbling in the next room, she called them into the bathroom to sort out the arguement. Although he isn't embarrassed seeing me or his family naked, he told me he felt embarrassed and nervous being told off by another naked woman in the bath. And to be honest, I wouldn't feel at all comfortable being naked in front of ds's friends. The thought actually makes me cringe. Maybe that makes me a prude.

I think seeing someone else's parents naked is a different matter.....

Maybe OK if already the norm in the culture...i.e. on a naturist reserve or in certain tribes...eg pygmys ...or by accident...that can happen of course

I was naked in the am everyday until my kids hit puberty. Then i saw fit to wear underwear (so i run around in off white knickers and a bra that used to be white until i washed it with my new print green skirt which ididn't think would run at all) now my whites have a tint of green.

When we have company, friends, other kids, we dress before leaving the bedroom.

Dh used to walk around in his boxers but will not leave the room without his trousers now they are all teenagers.