Strange or Normal?

[TwoCats]

My 13 month old DD has started really messing at bed times. We have always had a good bedtime routine but recently she has gone from being easy to settle to messing in any way she can. The behaviours though are causing me some concern.
For instance she will stick her fingers down her throat until she retches or try to push teddy's face as far into her mouth with similar results (I am always concerned she will bring her milk back), poke her finger up her nose (which looks likes it hurts) or poke her own eyes and pull at her eyelashes. All of these I have tried to tell her 'no' and remove her hand which then becomes a game. I've tried ignoring too but it still happens. What really upsets me is when she grabs at my face really hard - again 'no' doesn't work, she just laughs. Turning away usually means my ears catch it instead. My DP doesn't seem to get any of this, although she has been known to go for his nose on occasion.
She has always fallen asleep on me in the past but maybe it's time to put her in before she falls asleep. Although this is usually met with tears, should I be trying the controlled crying thing?
Any tips would be appreciated, my angel is becoming a wee bugger!!

Seems to me to be her version of pushing boundaries, keeping your attention etc that both my two went through round about then.
I would:
a) ignore all the poking fingers in nose/eyes/mouth things - you have made it a game by giving her a good reaction. Blank it out.
b)If she grabs at you, then say No firmly, and immediately put her down and walk awayand ignore her (totally) for a minute - make sure is somewhere safe first tho. It's your attention she likes, so if doing those things results in that attention being removed, then she'll stop.
c) Stop letting her fall asleep on you - you can use controlled crying, or one of the other methods that have been often described here. But whichever you choose - commit to it, and persevere. Personally the controlled crying worked fine for me, but I know it isn't for everyone.

And remember it's a phase. As long as you establish her boundaries so that you all know what the score is, and keep remembering that you are the adult in the relationship, the you should get through it.
Good luck - I know it can be very trying!

My DS does these sort of things when he doesn't want me to leave at bedtime. He vomits extremely readily, and I actually think that he sometimes does it on purpose to keep me with him. He sort of grunts and clears his throat till he generates a cough, then out it all comes!

I just lie him down in his cot, and keep on doing it each time he stands up. And I stay with him till he's a asleep, because to be honest I'd rather do that that spend an hour cleaning up vomit.

I don't like the idea of controlled crying, it's not for me. Leaving a baby to cry just doesn't feel right. And anyway, he'd throw up.

It's just a phase, it'll pass. Before you know it she'll be shooing you out of her bedroom so she can text her mates!

Is there any chance that she could genuinely be uncomfortable - teeth / ears / throat / headache? That would be my first thought if she's tearing at her face - they don't always know how to get at the bit that's bothering them....