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if you put me down I'll scream and scream - 3 month old needs constant contact

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carocaro · 04/05/2007 20:40

is that normal? the minute he I put him down in the day he instantly screams and cries, I pick him up and he's H A P P Y. I am finding it very draining and claustrophobic. I have DS1 who is 5 and I don't remember him like this. He also only wants me or Daddy, he likes no one else. Is it just phase? He goes to bed OK, which is FAB x 1, catrillion! The days are long, but he is just gorgeous!

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MuminBrum · 04/05/2007 20:53

Sounds pretty normal to me - my DS loved to be held, and my nephew was the same! Please don't take this the wrong way, and it's certainly not intended to be a criticism, but I kind of enjoyed it - I knew I was never going to have another baby, and the fact that this LO just wanted to be close to me all the time was rather a lovely thing. However, I did of course have moments when I would look at myself trying to pee while holding a baby, and think "you are bats"!

iwouldgoouttonight · 04/05/2007 20:56

Hi carocaro - my DS was like that at about that age. I couldn't get anything else done because he just wanted to be carried/held - think I may have posted about it at the time! I tried carrying him in a sling so at least I had my hands free, but made my back ache after a while! He became happier to be left lying down once he could reach for more things and entertain himself a bit better. Now he's 8 months and can sit up and is happy for me to leave him to play.

So he will grow out of it - but I do remember it being very tiring at the time so I do sympathise with you.

hbbell · 04/05/2007 20:56

Would it help if he was in a bounce chair so could se you and you sound mad by talking to your self to help reassure him. try not to pick him up as soon as he cryes

some just love to screem

LadyTophamHatt · 04/05/2007 20:57

Ds4 is nearly 4 moths old and would happily be carried around all day.
I agree with muminbrum, I Love it that he only want me I've savouring very second of his babyhood.

LynetteScavo · 04/05/2007 21:03

I only read the thread title, and I knew you had a boy! I know how draining it is to have a baby like this. These boys need so much love and reasurance. Soon he'll be old enough for one of those bouncy swing things that hangs on the door frame. I found it a God send with DS1.

blueshoes · 04/05/2007 21:40

erm, my dd was the same. And ds is also the same. Get a sling. Some babies are like this. I totally envied mums who could put their babies down - mine were never content to simply lie there or sit in their buggy. But once my little ones could sit up, then crawl, then walk, they got better and better at amusing themselves when put down.

Soon you will be able to put ds2 in the doorway bouncer, a walker etc It will get better, hth.

My theory is that "velcro" babies are rather sociable creatures. Enjoy the cuddles

cathcart · 04/05/2007 21:48

my dd is 3 months too and a little clingy. It is realy draining I agree, you just can't get anything done! I am lucky - she does enjoy sitting in her chair for up to 20/30mins when she is in a good mood and she sleeps well in her cot for her daytime naps so I just try and get on with things then. I used to worry that she'd always be like this but now I'm sure she'll become happier on her own when she is sitting and can occupy herself a bit more. I also try to put her down and just spend time singing and talking to her but not cuddling so she gets used to that too. If doing the dishes or something I usually put her in her chair and position her so she can easiy see me, if she gets a bit grumbley I stat singing at the top of my (terrible) voice which usually buys me another 5-10 minutes!

sweetjane · 04/05/2007 21:51

Interesting this as my ds is the total opposite - he really likes his own space and actually cries to be PUT DOWN sometimes.. he likes cuddles as well, but on his own terms!

blueshoes and others are right, he will prob grow out of it but I reckon all babies have clingy phases. My 3yo nephew is permanently glued to my sister at the moment and announces to his dad "I am NOT your baby. I am MUMMY'S baby"!!

gigglinggoblin · 04/05/2007 21:52

ds4 is 10 weeks and just like this, none of the other 3 were. it is wearing a bit thin now. there was a thread earlier where someone was saying they bought 6m of fabric and made a wrap sling - a few googles later i have found how to make a wrap where baby can be attached to breast all day handsfree which is ideal for me. i already have a baby bjorn sling which is fab but i cant feed in so will be fabric hunting tomorrow morning!

jollyfolly · 04/05/2007 22:12

ds was like that... although he would'nt even sleep alone.... was happy as larry if he had some form of physical contact but screamed usually within 2 minutes of being put down!!! It can be bl**dy hard work cant it! Hate to say that he did not get any better until he could crawl either. Like the others have said the baby sling was my saving grace!

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