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siobhann86 · 26/02/2018 09:53

Just need a bit of advice regarding my 8 yr old son. Since Ive had my second child (now 2) my 8 year old seems to act younger than he is. He really annoys me, i really try to bite my tongue and pick my battles but my oh says we need to tell him off every time he does something so he knows its wrong and hopefully stop. But if i did all i would do it moan moan moan. Just a few examples are: He will jump all over the sofa, then be upset when we tell him off. He'll hurt his brother when he thinks were not watching. Laugh when his brother gets hurt. Chase him round to try make him fall over. Not share. Takes things off him. He's get his brother to bite him on purpose then start crying saying his brother has bit him, whether he wants the attention or wants his brother in trouble i dont know?! He just doesnt act his age, but at school he's a model pupil! I do so much with them both together and try my best to spend one on one time with my 8yr old but sometimes its just not possible. i just dont get it! It's so frustrating, i dislike him some days and i feel bad for feeling this way! Any advice on helping my son to essentially grow up and start acting his age will be gratefully recieved.

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EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic · 26/02/2018 10:06

Instead of telling him off each time, have you tried explaining to him simply that the behaviour isn’t appropriate? My DS hated being told off and it would often make his behaviour worse so we could easy have ended up in a vicious circle where he misbehaved, got told off, behaviour became worse, more telling off.

Things that really worked for us were lots of love and reassurance. He’s had a big change in his life and he needs to know you still love him, tell him often. Pick your battles, hurting the other child is not ok, if he wants to jump on the sofa suggest he goes and plays in the garden instead. Praise, praise and praise some more when he does the slightest thing in the right direction. Make sure you get at least half an hour with him when the youngest has gone to bed to talk, cuddke, watch tv or play a board game together. My now teen lived this time so much he still sometimes appears for a chat when the other DC has gone to bed so that he can spend some time with us alone.

EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic · 26/02/2018 10:08

Oh and try reading Divas & Dictators. Yiu can download a free sample from amazon to see if you like it Smile

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